Exacly. You can not un-sour milk.Or "is there any way i can make it work with bpd ex"
never go back to the drink
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Exacly. You can not un-sour milk.Or "is there any way i can make it work with bpd ex"
never go back to the drink
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Honestly this was a big one for me. Before hand i do have to admit that looks wise, i felt lucky to have her. But once you get in serious shape its crazy, even your face improves. Now i am capable of doing better i dont need to mess with that.Serious props, @Infern0 for having the self-respect to nope the cr@p out of that email.
An uplifting post like this reminds me how well it is for us DJs to maintain strict NC from the toxic ex. Better yet, like you said, get ripped and shred that old depressed shell for a new and much improved you.![]()
Its been 9 months NC almost a year since i seen her.
I have been training seriously in that time and got great results, plus heaps if self improvement and growth, feeling good boyos.
other day i ran into her best friend (hb8) who couldnt stop complimenting me and squeezed my arms lol (this one is the hot slutty girl who my ex worships) its funny because this girl used to pretty much snob me when i was out of shape depressed dude with the bpd, but now she was all "omg you look so different, good for you, wow" and smiling and hard eye contact.
Anyway I knew at that point the clock was ticking.
Anyway opened my emails and there it was, the email from the ex.
Opened it and just saw wall of text starting with:
"i know you hate me and want nothing to do with me but"
DELETE
No thanks.
Tldr: they ALWAYS come back
Honestly this was a big one for me. Before hand i do have to admit that looks wise, i felt lucky to have her. But once you get in serious shape its crazy, even your face improves. Now i am capable of doing better i dont need to mess with that.
The mental aspect is very important too obviously. But the gym really helps with endorphins etc so its win win.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Weldone man props to you.. don't let that hoe back in, because these toxic chicks, will pull you back into there nest and the mind fuking will start again..
I had a similar situation where a toxic ex came back.. on her hands and knees.. i banged her for a while, then just moved on..
Her life fell to chit after me.. she put on weight, got unhealthy.. Every relationship after me, just fizzled out.. can't believe i fell for that hoe in the first place..
Anynow hitting the gym is your ultimate weapon.. I have always trained hard, but since my recent break up, been hitting the gym 5 days a week..
Arms are looking big, ripped chest.. biitches just notice you a whole lot more.. lots of respect from other dudes..
As my ex ages further, and starts looking like a sack of fuking spuds.. i will get ripped to fuk, and smash younger hotter girls...
Weldone inferno.. you showed strength!
Its been 9 months NC almost a year since i seen her.
I have been training seriously in that time and got great results, plus heaps if self improvement and growth, feeling good boyos.
other day i ran into her best friend (hb8) who couldnt stop complimenting me and squeezed my arms lol (this one is the hot slutty girl who my ex worships) its funny because this girl used to pretty much snob me when i was out of shape depressed dude with the bpd, but now she was all "omg you look so different, good for you, wow" and smiling and hard eye contact.
Anyway I knew at that point the clock was ticking.
Anyway opened my emails and there it was, the email from the ex.
Opened it and just saw wall of text starting with:
"i know you hate me and want nothing to do with me but"
DELETE
No thanks.
Tldr: they ALWAYS come back