"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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BPD finally came crawling back.

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Its been 9 months NC almost a year since i seen her.

I have been training seriously in that time and got great results, plus heaps if self improvement and growth, feeling good boyos.

other day i ran into her best friend (hb8) who couldnt stop complimenting me and squeezed my arms lol (this one is the hot slutty girl who my ex worships) its funny because this girl used to pretty much snob me when i was out of shape depressed dude with the bpd, but now she was all "omg you look so different, good for you, wow" and smiling and hard eye contact.

Anyway I knew at that point the clock was ticking.

Anyway opened my emails and there it was, the email from the ex.

Opened it and just saw wall of text starting with:

"i know you hate me and want nothing to do with me but"

DELETE

No thanks.

Tldr: they ALWAYS come back
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Infern0 said:
Its been 9 months NC almost a year since i seen her.

I have been training seriously in that time and got great results, plus heaps if self improvement and growth, feeling good boyos.

other day i ran into her best friend (hb8) who couldnt stop complimenting me and squeezed my arms lol (this one is the hot slutty girl who my ex worships) its funny because this girl used to pretty much snob me when i was out of shape depressed dude with the bpd, but now she was all "omg you look so different, good for you, wow" and smiling and hard eye contact.

Anyway I knew at that point the clock was ticking.

Anyway opened my emails and there it was, the email from the ex.

Opened it and just saw wall of text starting with:

"i know you hate me and want nothing to do with me but"

DELETE

No thanks.

Tldr: they ALWAYS come back
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Ahh.... the sweet satisfaction of victory... :D
 
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Roober said:
Ahh.... the sweet satisfaction of victory... :D
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Yeah i was thinking that earlier. warred with this girl for 3 years and i finally "won"

But, meh whatever, i'm clued up enough to know now that life has already beaten her, i'm beyond hate or anything at this stage, i pity her. But i don't want any part of her either.
 
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Infern0 said:
Its been 9 months NC almost a year since i seen her.

I have been training seriously in that time and got great results, plus heaps if self improvement and growth, feeling good boyos.

other day i ran into her best friend (hb8) who couldnt stop complimenting me and squeezed my arms lol (this one is the hot slutty girl who my ex worships) its funny because this girl used to pretty much snob me when i was out of shape depressed dude with the bpd, but now she was all "omg you look so different, good for you, wow" and smiling and hard eye contact.

Anyway I knew at that point the clock was ticking.

Anyway opened my emails and there it was, the email from the ex.

Opened it and just saw wall of text starting with:

"i know you hate me and want nothing to do with me but"

DELETE

No thanks.

Tldr: they ALWAYS come back
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Handled perfectly.

Nope.

Delete.

Gone.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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dude99 said:
Handled perfectly.

Nope.

Delete.

Gone.
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You could've made her a permenant pump and dump where the framed conversation is focused around the next meeting for sex and nothing outside of this.
 
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Im glad you handled it this way. I thought you were going to tell us you lined up a meeting with her and were looking to smash. The feeling is very tempting, going back to an old ex, better, confident you will hold the power.

However its often not worth it. You made a good decision. And I know the feeling is amazing.
 
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bradd80 said:
You should have read it so you can tell us what she said and we can all have a good laugh :rofl::lol:

After a year out I would never go back to an ex.. at that point even the thought of sexing her disgusts me.
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Got it. Well definitely don't "degrade" yourself behind some sex...
 
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mrgoodstuff said:
You could've made her a permenant pump and dump where the framed conversation is focused around the next meeting for sex and nothing outside of this.
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He could have tried for the pump and dump but being a bpd you could never get rid of her after the dump.

He would be making a new thread called " how do i get rid of bpd ex after the pump and dump?"
 
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They are so many hot, rotten girls out there! Why waste time with only one?

Garbage!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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dude99 said:
He could have tried for the pump and dump but being a bpd you could never get rid of her after the dump.

He would be making a new thread called " how do i get rid of bpd ex after the pump and dump?"
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Or "is there any way i can make it work with bpd ex"

never go back to the drink
 
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Infern0 said:
Its been 9 months NC almost a year since i seen her.

I have been training seriously in that time and got great results, plus heaps if self improvement and growth, feeling good boyos.

other day i ran into her best friend (hb8) who couldnt stop complimenting me and squeezed my arms lol (this one is the hot slutty girl who my ex worships) its funny because this girl used to pretty much snob me when i was out of shape depressed dude with the bpd, but now she was all "omg you look so different, good for you, wow" and smiling and hard eye contact.

Anyway I knew at that point the clock was ticking.

Anyway opened my emails and there it was, the email from the ex.

Opened it and just saw wall of text starting with:

"i know you hate me and want nothing to do with me but"

DELETE

No thanks.

Tldr: they ALWAYS come back
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This is the same chick who had the guy kill himself over her, correct?
 
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Yup thats the one
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I give you a-lot of credit for being able to just delete it. I always have this urge in me to get even with people like this by saying something mean or cruel to them, but I guess with women like this that does no good. Just gives em a feeling of being important to you still.
 
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btownbuck2012 said:
I give you a-lot of credit for being able to just delete it. I always have this urge in me to get even with people like this by saying something mean or cruel to them, but I guess with women like this that does no good. Just gives em a feeling of being important to you still.
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There's a lot of things i could have done.

Thrown some abuse

Pumped and dumped

Probably could have hooked up with her best friend

But, what would that make me?

just as bad as her.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Well done Infern0. I remember your old thread and I can relate it´s really a matter of life and death.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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