Belmar2009
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Don't you think most women will leave their boyfriend for the bigger better deal?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
That's asking the wrong question.Belmar2009 said:Don't you think most women will leave their boyfriend for the bigger better deal?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
It depends on how good her current relationship is. If she's unhappy, it could very easily happen.Belmar2009 said:Don't you think most women will leave their boyfriend for the bigger better deal?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I can't fault a girl for branch swinging to move up in value, but if a girl is unable to stay faithful to any boyfriend then I see that as a sign of weakness. She is unable to control her desires.But it does seem that most attractive girls, who have their lives together, have boyfriends. I've noticed that many girls seem to waste very little time between relationships, and have seen first hand a girl "hop" from one guy to the next, breaking one and beginning another. Personally, I view this as a sign of emotional weakness.
People who are around a cluster of single guys will see it that way. Clusters of single girls will think men jump into new relationships faster.zekko said:I have noticed women tend to waste very little time between relationships, but I think this is because it is usually pretty easy for a girl to get another boyfriend, and also because they usually have the next chump in mind before they dump the old one.
Hell no. It's easy for a pretty girl to get a boyfriend and it's easy for a rich guy to get a girlfriend, because they are guaranteed to have one no matter what.ThatMysteriousGuy said:It's slightly easier in the United States for a guy to get a girlfriend than a girl to get a boyfriend.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.