Belmar2009
Don Juan
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Don't you think most women will leave their boyfriend for the bigger better deal?
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
That's asking the wrong question.Belmar2009 said:Don't you think most women will leave their boyfriend for the bigger better deal?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
It depends on how good her current relationship is. If she's unhappy, it could very easily happen.Belmar2009 said:Don't you think most women will leave their boyfriend for the bigger better deal?
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I can't fault a girl for branch swinging to move up in value, but if a girl is unable to stay faithful to any boyfriend then I see that as a sign of weakness. She is unable to control her desires.But it does seem that most attractive girls, who have their lives together, have boyfriends. I've noticed that many girls seem to waste very little time between relationships, and have seen first hand a girl "hop" from one guy to the next, breaking one and beginning another. Personally, I view this as a sign of emotional weakness.
People who are around a cluster of single guys will see it that way. Clusters of single girls will think men jump into new relationships faster.zekko said:I have noticed women tend to waste very little time between relationships, but I think this is because it is usually pretty easy for a girl to get another boyfriend, and also because they usually have the next chump in mind before they dump the old one.
Hell no. It's easy for a pretty girl to get a boyfriend and it's easy for a rich guy to get a girlfriend, because they are guaranteed to have one no matter what.ThatMysteriousGuy said:It's slightly easier in the United States for a guy to get a girlfriend than a girl to get a boyfriend.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.