Belmar2009
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Don't you think most women will leave their boyfriend for the bigger better deal?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That's asking the wrong question.Belmar2009 said:Don't you think most women will leave their boyfriend for the bigger better deal?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
It depends on how good her current relationship is. If she's unhappy, it could very easily happen.Belmar2009 said:Don't you think most women will leave their boyfriend for the bigger better deal?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
I can't fault a girl for branch swinging to move up in value, but if a girl is unable to stay faithful to any boyfriend then I see that as a sign of weakness. She is unable to control her desires.But it does seem that most attractive girls, who have their lives together, have boyfriends. I've noticed that many girls seem to waste very little time between relationships, and have seen first hand a girl "hop" from one guy to the next, breaking one and beginning another. Personally, I view this as a sign of emotional weakness.
People who are around a cluster of single guys will see it that way. Clusters of single girls will think men jump into new relationships faster.zekko said:I have noticed women tend to waste very little time between relationships, but I think this is because it is usually pretty easy for a girl to get another boyfriend, and also because they usually have the next chump in mind before they dump the old one.
Hell no. It's easy for a pretty girl to get a boyfriend and it's easy for a rich guy to get a girlfriend, because they are guaranteed to have one no matter what.ThatMysteriousGuy said:It's slightly easier in the United States for a guy to get a girlfriend than a girl to get a boyfriend.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.