"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Boyfriend?

deer

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There's this girl who gives me some definite IOIs and flirts with me quite a bit, but she has a boyfriend who she seems to care about, I think. What can I do to get her to forget about her boyfriend and hook up with me instead?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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(JJ)

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well. there's 3,301,112,087 girls in the world.

one that'll drop him for you, will do the same to you as soon as a bigger, better deal comes along.

therefore, forget about her. there's still 3,301,112,086 Left in the world.
 

mrRuckus

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They will all drop you for the bigger, better deal.
 

DJVladdy

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Like my Natural friend likes to say: "boyfriend is not a wall - he can move."
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Cassanova_Child

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hire a hitman. its not hard... just go up to your local ghetto and hire some whackjob with no future to pull it off for 15 bucks of a BJ......... ;)


note, if you take me seriously, you deserve to be shot! dont bother, as other ppl have sad, shell drop you at the slightest opportunity.
 

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Hey, any girl will dump you if something better comes along. lol Unless of course they are one of those obsessive people that don't want to look bad at all. Then they will try to get you to dump them.

Long story short, you are the guy that is better than the boyfriend. You are the one who has come along and if you can make this girl happier than her boyfriend can, why punish the girl for this dude's sake?
 

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smoothtalker72 said:
do you really want a girl who is willing to drop her boyfriend just like that?
+1. Other than that, I don't encourage other DJ's to snipe away their girls - it's not right. That's the #1 man rule. Only exception is if the guy treats the girl poorly. If he treats her right, let them be. Plenty of fish in the sea, move on.
 
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