"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Bounce or stick around?

disgustipated

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Recently moved.

Neighbor chick, 40, invites herself over to my next door neighbor's get together and starts hitting on me, touching me too.

I start having a few beers at her place 1-2 times a week, heavy petting ensues. She still is "seeing" a guy from her job, I'm cool with it....give her PLENTY of space.

3rd time I'm over we hit it. 1st time sex, so so. 2nd time was much better.

In meantime she mentions how she never introduces a man to her daughter since her divorce. She ninja introduces me to her daughter(sneaky). Daughter doesn't hate me to mother's shock. Daughter warms up to me even. Mother is surprised, says daughter asks about me when not around. I never had a kid, kinda cool...whatever...I'm super guarded this might be manipulation on her part so I don't overreact.

Random Saturday night she stumbles to my door, drunk almost passed out...I pick her up, carry her back to her place and put her in bed, PJS, water on night stand...she begs me to stay the night.....even though the Fedor/Henderson fight is on at my place I stay(should've left). She sobers up in a few hours and we bang one out and nod off.

Next day, texted saying "I don't think we should hang out anymore". To myself I'm saying, this girl is drama and I don't even want to know the reason...I won't indulge her so I text back "ok, good luck out there".

This drives her crazy ofc, so she invites the ex back over and he stays the night...doesn't bother me except for the fact that I know she's TRYING to get me jealous. I don't like manipulators. Anyway she's constantly txting me now saying she misses me and the WORST is (my daughter has been asking about you a lot)...which COULD be true I suppose but is that not manipulation or just bad parenting? I mean what does she tell her daughter when she asks how come he doesn't come around any more mom? Certainly she doesn't tell her , "well, I love drama and just ****ed up a good thing by txting random bullsnot after a night when he took care of me".....

Anyway it's been a week or so now and she's still playing the daughter card and saying she misses me. Am I right in thinking this is not a keeper? My instincts say she isn't. Last night I gave in and had sex again, and cancelled on a girl that was a sure **** (ex). Tonight I have the same option, 2 girls, one girl wants me to watch a movie with her and the daughter, the other wants ****...in no uncertain terms.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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40 year old drunk with a kid and a boyfriend.

Hm. That's a tough one.

Maybe you should bring her a dozen roses, a Hallmark card, and work through this. She sounds like she could be "the one"
 

disgustipated

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Not that this makes this any better but, I'm near 40.

So far thanks for the advice, I'll be taking it.
 

Alex DeLarge

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This woman is a prime example of what this board teaches you to avoid at all costs. Hate to say it, but her daughter's probably going to grow up to be a little drunk slut just like mommy with that kind of parenting.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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