"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Bounce or stick around?

disgustipated

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Recently moved.

Neighbor chick, 40, invites herself over to my next door neighbor's get together and starts hitting on me, touching me too.

I start having a few beers at her place 1-2 times a week, heavy petting ensues. She still is "seeing" a guy from her job, I'm cool with it....give her PLENTY of space.

3rd time I'm over we hit it. 1st time sex, so so. 2nd time was much better.

In meantime she mentions how she never introduces a man to her daughter since her divorce. She ninja introduces me to her daughter(sneaky). Daughter doesn't hate me to mother's shock. Daughter warms up to me even. Mother is surprised, says daughter asks about me when not around. I never had a kid, kinda cool...whatever...I'm super guarded this might be manipulation on her part so I don't overreact.

Random Saturday night she stumbles to my door, drunk almost passed out...I pick her up, carry her back to her place and put her in bed, PJS, water on night stand...she begs me to stay the night.....even though the Fedor/Henderson fight is on at my place I stay(should've left). She sobers up in a few hours and we bang one out and nod off.

Next day, texted saying "I don't think we should hang out anymore". To myself I'm saying, this girl is drama and I don't even want to know the reason...I won't indulge her so I text back "ok, good luck out there".

This drives her crazy ofc, so she invites the ex back over and he stays the night...doesn't bother me except for the fact that I know she's TRYING to get me jealous. I don't like manipulators. Anyway she's constantly txting me now saying she misses me and the WORST is (my daughter has been asking about you a lot)...which COULD be true I suppose but is that not manipulation or just bad parenting? I mean what does she tell her daughter when she asks how come he doesn't come around any more mom? Certainly she doesn't tell her , "well, I love drama and just ****ed up a good thing by txting random bullsnot after a night when he took care of me".....

Anyway it's been a week or so now and she's still playing the daughter card and saying she misses me. Am I right in thinking this is not a keeper? My instincts say she isn't. Last night I gave in and had sex again, and cancelled on a girl that was a sure **** (ex). Tonight I have the same option, 2 girls, one girl wants me to watch a movie with her and the daughter, the other wants ****...in no uncertain terms.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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40 year old drunk with a kid and a boyfriend.

Hm. That's a tough one.

Maybe you should bring her a dozen roses, a Hallmark card, and work through this. She sounds like she could be "the one"
 

disgustipated

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Not that this makes this any better but, I'm near 40.

So far thanks for the advice, I'll be taking it.
 

Alex DeLarge

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This woman is a prime example of what this board teaches you to avoid at all costs. Hate to say it, but her daughter's probably going to grow up to be a little drunk slut just like mommy with that kind of parenting.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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