Ever have a chick call you up with nothing to say? Literally sitting on the other end and saying absolutely nothing. I sit there with an awkward silence for 20-30 seconds with no exchange. That's a long time on the phone with no words. I even call her out on it and she ignores what I said and begins to talk about something else. Who the hell has time for this crap?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Boring phone calls...
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Masculinity
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Is this a girlfriend? A plate? A girl you just met?
This is way too little information to try to give you useful advice. Give us more details and contact with which to work. What's the situation here?
This is way too little information to try to give you useful advice. Give us more details and contact with which to work. What's the situation here?
old_skoolr
Master Don Juan
A chick called me once I was fapping. After 20 seconds it turned to one of those convos were shed breathe and sigh on the phone and tell me how cold and lonely she is.
I fapped through the entire phone call.
I fapped through the entire phone call.
Between_The_Lines
Master Don Juan
lol!!!old_skoolr said:
I made an entire relationship out of a girl who essentially had NOTHING to say. My sister, social animal that she is, used to tell me that getting her to open up was like pulling teeth. After we broke up, she (my sister) asked me in pure wonderment "what the hell did you guys talk about anyway?" I told her the truth, that it was about 10 percent dialogue, 10 percent silence, 80 percent me running my mouth until I ran out of energy or ideas, usually both - pure monologue. Yep, I put up with that in exchange for the best pvssy of my life.
Greasy Pig
Master Don Juan
This happened to me when I was 14. It was painful and I'd have to pretend my friends were going for breakfast and I had to go (this was at boarding school).
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
sylvester the cat
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lol.old_skoolr said:
She is just a friend I hang out with from time to time. I was aiming more at a vent thread than anything. She called me 3 times and I finally answered after the third call thinking she must need something. Nope. Haha. Just awkward silence. She has nothing to say. It wasn't the first time she has done that which is why I was reluctant to answer the call.Masculinity said: