"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I have been hitting up this one girl for awhile now, i've already got her # and stuff we have hung out and stuff. then it droped off at the beginning of this year.

so 3 weeks in to the school year i started talking her up more but every time i talk to her I get the simple 1 word awnsers which i usualy reply w/ C&F il get a laugh sometimes but she just wont talk more. im thinking of just nexting her, but gonna keep tryin my luck for now. so to the point of my question.

Any tips for getting a girl to come out of her shell and be moire talkitive. ive tryed stuff in the bible but allways get a one word awners or short sentance.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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quit asking her questions. If you want her to talk, talk to her about life/her intrests/music. Pick one. If she still does 1 word answers move on.
 
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Yeah man, you have to MAKE her not boring.
The only thing about a girl that isn't boring is her pu-ssy.
Wy do you think they like exciting, non-boring guys? Because they themselves are fu-cking bored out of their minds!!
Good luck with that.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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It may help you to plan out the conversation before hand and give a list of open-ended questions to fall back on. Just don't do trigger questions like how are you? how was your day? how are you feeling? do you see ok?
 
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Originally posted by pimpfromdayone
Yeah man, you have to MAKE her not boring.
The only thing about a girl that isn't boring is her pu-ssy.
Wy do you think they like exciting, non-boring guys? Because they themselves are fu-cking bored out of their minds!!
Good luck with that.
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You have to make nothing.

We've all met people with whom conversation just goes on and it's great. No matter what, no matter when, you're going to strike an interesting conversation with them. And then there are people similar to the OP's. These people are just not worth our time. Honestly, it's just not fair to you who wants to strike up a great conversation, friendship or relationship to have to do 90% of the work.

If someone isn't meeting you halfway, don't even think twice about walking away.
 
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i usualy reply w/ C&F il get a laugh sometimes but she just wont talk more. im thinking of just nexting her, but gonna keep tryin my luck for now.

This girl gives you one word responses, but you are going to keep trying your luck?

1. She's not interested, period. Don't waist anymore time with her, move on. Hell, if you ignore her, you might actually get the response you want.

2. If you keep trying, you will come across very desperate and needy. Want to know what will happen next? She'll start complaining to her friends about you. Once that starts, it's over because they will start looking at you the same way...Next thing you know, you'll be known as the desparate guy.

3. Never, ever put so much emphasis on any one girl.
 
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Originally posted by LikRetsam
You have to make nothing.

We've all met people with whom conversation just goes on and it's great. No matter what, no matter when, you're going to strike an interesting conversation with them. And then there are people similar to the OP's. These people are just not worth our time. Honestly, it's just not fair to you who wants to strike up a great conversation, friendship or relationship to have to do 90% of the work.

If someone isn't meeting you halfway, don't even think twice about walking away.
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Basically all I meant was that your job as a guy is to keep things interesting, to lead her in convos and stuff. Women need us to keep their lives non-boring..... that's the plain truth. I've struck decent convos with women, and tell me I am just thinking negative if you want, but I have yet to find a girl who is as interesting and exciting as myself..... I'm not being egotistical or anything, but "hanging out with friends, talking on the cell phone, partying, etc." is NOT my idea of interesting or exciting. Their conversation skills reflect that.
 
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I have yet to find a girl who is as interesting and exciting as myself

haha, this is great. Can I use that line? Classic!
I may have to use it as part of my signature.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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yea whyshy is right...dont ask ?'s that can be answerred with a simple yes or no....ask something that has to be answered with depth and interest
 
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