"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Bored of it all

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DanelMadr said:
Or I pack my things and head to Afghanistan. But guess what...it will be boring there too after a while I guess for I am cursed:)
I've considered joining the military before. But honestly, I don't think my biggest fear is dying. It's being stuck sitting in a desert playing Afghani Policeman and being bored out of my mind, then dying in some mundane and senseless way like a roadside IED hitting my convoy, instead of some legendary firefight that really means something.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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@ White pimp

I find any kind of dating BORING nowadays. From calling the girl up, to arranging a stupid activity, to pretending like I actually give a sh!t when I just want to bang her, etc.
I feel like I should be meeting girls since I'm still in my prime, but the interest just isn't there. Coincidentally, I've been bluntly honest with girls because of this and it's really upped my attractiveness because I am an aloof, confident sack of balls who isn't afraid of saying what he thinks.
If women are attracted to you because of your "blunt honesty" then why is it so hard to call them up for sex (NOT a date) if that is all you want ??

I was actually thinking about bringing girls on "fake" crimes as dates and pretending I was this sleazy criminal just to make it more exciting for myself, and possibly her.
What are your interests in life ?? Can you NOT find a girl with similar interests as yourself ??

If all you want is sex and you are NOT interested in dating why are you going out of your way to come up with an elaborate dating scheme ?? Hook up with one of your "interested girls".
 

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Drum&Bass said:
If women are attracted to you because of your "blunt honesty" then why is it so hard to call them up for sex (NOT a date) if that is all you want ??
Because they typically have boyfriends who happen to be friends of mine. I've lost friends before by messing around with their girls. I try not to do that any more...even though it's sometimes too easy. Because their guys trust me, they trust me, and it lets me get in their heads.

In my experience, any "new girl" who has a shred of self-respect demands at least SOME pretense. Even if sex IS the end-goal and you both know it, you still have to make up some BS about watching a movie or going out to eat before you bring her back to your place/go back to her place.

I've done the hook-up thing before, but usually the girls are either 1) not that good-looking or 2) I've established sufficient rapport with them ahead of time...either by f**king them on a previous "date" (which involved pretense) or by chatting endlessly with them on some online site.

Either way...too much damn work to put in.

It never seemed like "work" when I still believed that women were awesome and getting p***y was the magical key to happiness...then, it was WORTH it. Now, sex is just a body-function. Kind of like taking a dump...when you get the urge, you go do it, and it feels good when you do, but you want to waste as little time as possible, and if you could avoid wasting ANY time on it, you would.

Can you NOT find a girl with similar interests as yourself ??
That is exactly the problem.
 

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I can't relate or offer anything useful to you guys. I find dating to be exciting and a girl ends up going on a date with me only if I am interested in her. Flirting also gives me a rush.

I guess it might be a combination of being well received by many different women I find attractive and having a high libido.

Now, sex is just a body-function. Kind of like taking a dump...when you get the urge, you go do it, and it feels good when you do, but you want to waste as little time as possible, and if you could avoid wasting ANY time on it, you would.
jeezus dood....Did you have to compare taking a sh!t to sex ???

I like sex and intimacy a lot so Im never in a hurry to leave after my first round. I always stay for 2nds, 3rds, 4ths 5ths, 6ths, 7ths, 8,ths 9ths, 10ths, 11.........
 

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@ squirrles(what up mentor!!)

Ironic, I use to tell you to get of your ass, but now I feel the same you do, about women in most ways(funny part was I just read a old thread you wrote recently about living life and how you were working out and stuff like that). Maybe it's cause my life is in shambles right now, or maybe because women i meet now have the audacity to tell me in the middle of the date to "step my game up"

:(
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Solomon said:
@ squirrles(what up mentor!!)

Ironic, I use to tell you to get of your ass, but now I feel the same you do, about women in most ways(funny part was I just read a old thread you wrote recently about living life and how you were working out and stuff like that). Maybe it's cause my life is in shambles right now, or maybe because women i meet now have the audacity to tell me in the middle of the date to "step my game up"

:(
I'm seriously about to try some of this "direct" nonsense...I'm tired of playing games, but that doesn't necessarily mean I don't want to f**k.

What the hell, why not?? Girls all say they're "tired of the games", so why bother with it? Just be direct, and if she's not down to do what I want to do, I'll find one who is. :p

I'm tired of trying to figure out what "impresses" them. Nothing short of a million dollars in the bank, Brad-Pitt-looks, etc will "impress" them, so it seems. Even the ugly ones are brought up being taught to expect a prince to carry them off. Even if they don't "deserve" it themselves, even if they're hideous or unpleasant companions, they think just by virtue of being women it gives them some right to expect to be romanced by some sexy romantic comedy hero.

All I want is for them (and me) to have a good time...if they're not on-board with that I'm probably wasting my time anyway.

Just need to grab my balls and do it. Maybe D&B is onto something.
 

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What the hell, why not?? Girls all say they're "tired of the games", so why bother with it? Just be direct, and if she's not down to do what I want to do, I'll find one who is. :p
What they mean is that they are tired of men's games which worked to the men's advantage, but not their own scheming which will always continue unabated.
 

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I think I'm kind of on your same page squirrels. Maybe not to the same extent, but I want to nail girls without any sort of action on my part. I think I have some minor depression or something, or at least stress about my future and job situations.
 
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