F@ck. You nailed it.squirrels said:I don't know about the whole "pretend to be a criminal" thing, but I seriously know where you're coming from.
I guess it happened just as I was starting to really "get the hang of" the whole dating/fooling around thing. Even now, I'll flirt and play games but when it comes time to 'set the hook' and arrange a date, I'll always hesitate and back down from it.
Main reason being exactly what you said...women are boring. I mean, I don't HATE on them as much as I pretend to, but they bore the heck out of me. I've always been the kind of person who gets bored quickly. I need to be engaged or my mind just goes spinning off on life's great mysteries and I get in this bored/sullen mood. That's why I do the things I do...riding motorcycles, rock-climbing, etc...even something like chess or video games engages me. It's one of the reasons I have very few friends, because I honestly can't find many that I can have a DEEP conversation with.
Women...well most attractive women just aren't interested in anything worth talking about...and they SUCK at fun, engaging date activities, stuff like pool or bowling or mini-golf or go-karting. I always used to joke that you could tell a lot about a girl by how she plays air-hockey...and I've never found a girl that can play back at me. She'll always just tap the puck around and then look cute and confused when I whoop her arse.
That's what dating feels like to me...like playing air-hockey against a confused, passive 6-year-old who just wants a hug. I honestly get more stimulation out of sitting home and watching the damned History Channel.
Now I get 3-4 drinks in me...enough to dumb me down...and I relate better to women than I normally would. But too much and I start tripping and stuttering.
There was a time when sheer sex drive/testosterone in itself was enough to get me over all that and push through it to get a cute young thing in bed with me. Not any more...the sex drive has tapered off at 31 it seems, and although it's still there, it seems largely situational. I can't summon it at will to power through a boring date.
All I do now is flirt with my friends' girlfriends, honestly. They're around because my buddies drag them everywhere, so I just "practice" on them, treat them casual and bust on them, and they eat it up to the point where they're trying to have "secret conversations" with me. They're not even that good-looking, they're just convenient because I don't have to "set up dates" with them. They just want to hang out and have a good time.
I've asked them before to hook me up with single friends...they don't HAVE any. Every girl they know is either married, pseudo-married (shacked up with some dude), or in "it's complicated" territory. I had a buddy's girl say she wanted to set me up with her sister...but then she's already got a "boyfriend who's a loser". I don't even feel like messing with that. Seriously...if she has a loser for a boyfriend, what does that say about HER? What "high-value" woman has a loser for a boyfriend? Is that someone I want to associate with??
I'll tell you...the "dating game" seems more and more laughable every day...and I know...I KNOW I could get back into it if I could summon the initiative to put more than a half-arsed effort into it.
Meanwhile, this ugly loser friend I have in New Jersey is banging a new cutie every weekend. Dude seriously looks like a troll and has an "I hate life" attitude. Why do these women fall for him? Because he has nothing better to do than chase them down and he puts in the work that I find absolutely abhorrent.
Like anything else in life...losing weight, making money, etc...it's all a matter of how bad you want it, and whether you're willing to endure the SH*T that comes with it to get there. If the juice isn't worth the squeeze, you won't squeeze.
I honestly don't know if there's anything wrong with that approach. Depends on how much p***y means to you. And I daresay it means too much to most men in this day and age.
Easily bored + being a little too lazy. That are my problems too. I also need constant income of brain food. Well, time to have some children or what? :]
For me the biggest problem is that even in my naive years I just knew in few seconds what the person sitting in front of me is made of.
And in most cases I just knew it had no future. Mainly because most of the girls were just takers, emotional wrecks and leeches sucking on others energy but of course trying to prove everyone they are strong and in control and hard to get.
No hate. I just laughed to myself: "Oh lucky you, another interesting date."
Well, f@ck it. I don't need a soulmate. i just need a decent woman who is not completely soft in the head and is willing to cooperate. No free rides on my ride.
Or I pack my things and head to Afghanistan. But guess what...it will be boring there too after a while I guess for I am cursed