Rec_rejection_phobic
Don Juan
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uhhhh noo

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I feel ya dude, one even said to me "Sorry I dont talk to strangers"Originally posted by Swoop
Week 4, Friday
Went bowling today and saw this cute chick that looked very familiar. I went up to her and ask if I know her. Before I could get going, she shot me down and turn away. That was one quick rejection.
6 rejections, 4 more to go. Only 2 more days left, hopefully I can get it done.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Thanks for the feedback. It helps me continue to try even though I got knock down so many times now.Originally posted by \O/
Swoop, you really impress me!
You put yourself out there more so than most people on this site..And you keep hanging in there. Your replies are inspirational, even though they don't always turn successful.
Keep it up dude. You are destined to be successful with women they way you are trying and failing!!
yeah I think I need some more time. My cold is disturbing me.Originally posted by RBB
Bootcamp '05, so who's still alive?
It's like the last scene of The Last Samurai. I see fallen DJs along the green fields of weeks 1-4. Heh, it looks to me a slaughter. I'm sure everyone has their battle wounds to show and stories to tell now. But getting this far in BC has granted me the greatest feeling of achievement. I'm sure you have the same feeling. It's been a good journey. So let's continue..
Week#4 is taking two weeks for more of you. Well so what? Every man, every BC soldier, will shoulder by shoulder march through to greater self achievement and self improvement.
By the end of thursday I'll have my 10 rejections and will be able to do Bootcamp week#5. I think the only BCer who has 'swooped' gracefully into week#5 would be Swoop.
So, I guess everyone else would want more time like me. I have enough numbers I've gotten throughout BC to do week#5. But MOTU probably wanted us budding DJs to get all TEN rejections to achieve the iron skin we all need.
I'm getting to week#5 no matter what. I'll see you there! Hai!!!
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Originally posted by RBB
Bootcamp '05, so who's still alive?
It's like the last scene of The Last Samurai. I see fallen DJs along the green fields of weeks 1-4. Heh, it looks to me a slaughter. I'm sure everyone has their battle wounds to show and stories to tell now. But getting this far in BC has granted me the greatest feeling of achievement. I'm sure you have the same feeling. It's been a good journey. So let's continue..
Week#4 is taking two weeks for more of you. Well so what? Every man, every BC soldier, will shoulder by shoulder march through to greater self achievement and self improvement.
By the end of thursday I'll have my 10 rejections and will be able to do Bootcamp week#5. I think the only BCer who has 'swooped' gracefully into week#5 would be Swoop.
So, I guess everyone else would want more time like me. I have enough numbers I've gotten throughout BC to do week#5. But MOTU probably wanted us budding DJs to get all TEN rejections to achieve the iron skin we all need.
I'm getting to week#5 no matter what. I'll see you there! Hai!!!
I wasn't prepare for the AMOG. It's the first time it happen to me so I was caught off guard. Lack of experience there.Originally posted by The_Shezzler
Good stuff guys
Hey Swoop - why didnt you AMOG the damn fool? Take him out of the equation all together!
Ill get a week 5 thread up man!
Sarge On...
To update my situation, I'm putting it on hold for a couple of weeks, I've got a hell of an important couple of weeks career wise this week and next, and this combined with my weights schedule and part-time job means that week 4 of bootcamp is really 1 extra thing to think about at the moment for me.Bootcamp '05, so who's still alive?
'who said owt bout a relationship?!' - you could have quite possibly turned this around.And HB6.5 responded "Oh that's nice but I am not looking for a relationship right now." Then I said "Oh that's cool."
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.