"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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bootcamp 9/2/06

decaf-activist

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hey, i was browsing this site last night and stumbled on the bootcamp. sounded like a good place to start, so here i am.

just a quick background: im at a new college, and couldnt be more out of my comfort zone. im not the most social person in the world and chose the most social dorm on campus to break my slightly anti-social behavior.

anyway, thats about it for now, i just need to shake this feeling of insecurity ive had since ive been on campus. the bootcamp should help, and ill be starting day 1 today.

goal: 50 hi's with eye-contact within a week. shouldnt be too hard, i just have to commit!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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krasnyiLion

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you know what though
i think an approach journal would be the best thing though
unless you are REALLY AFRAID of talking to girls

with an approach journal you could approach, ask for tips and go on dates

just a thought
 

decaf-activist

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week 1 has been completed, saying hi to strangers was never really that difficult but its not like it was something i did everyday. now its within my "comfort zone."

i know im suppose to post at least once a week so i apologize for not keeping up with it, but i had a crazy week. i decided to try out for the tennis team at my school for fun, considering that they're the best in their division and did well at nationals. after taking a year off from the game i figured id just go out and have fun but i ended up making the team. granted its the bottom spot, but i can train and work my way up a few spots and play the game i love. i seriously almost cried as i was walking back to my dorm after my last win. i thought i would never be a tennis player again (you have to understand, ive played for more then 10 years, ive done tournaments my whole life etc.).

but ya, it was so hard not to grin as i was walking around yesterday (that was the last day of tryouts) and went out with the team to celebrate and got completely wasted. overall it was a very good weekend. i also got this girls #, it didnt go over very smoothely but eh, i guess she thought i was cute.

how it went down: i was mildly inebriated, hangin out with some friends, and i realized that i was having the best day ever. so i decided to go talk to this cute redhead, i figured even if she kicked me in the balls, nothing short of my parents/friends dieing would kill my mood that evening.

but ya, ill begin week 2 on monday, i have a crapload of homework/reading to catch up on
 
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