"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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bootcamp 9/2/06

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hey, i was browsing this site last night and stumbled on the bootcamp. sounded like a good place to start, so here i am.

just a quick background: im at a new college, and couldnt be more out of my comfort zone. im not the most social person in the world and chose the most social dorm on campus to break my slightly anti-social behavior.

anyway, thats about it for now, i just need to shake this feeling of insecurity ive had since ive been on campus. the bootcamp should help, and ill be starting day 1 today.

goal: 50 hi's with eye-contact within a week. shouldnt be too hard, i just have to commit!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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you know what though
i think an approach journal would be the best thing though
unless you are REALLY AFRAID of talking to girls

with an approach journal you could approach, ask for tips and go on dates

just a thought
 
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week 1 has been completed, saying hi to strangers was never really that difficult but its not like it was something i did everyday. now its within my "comfort zone."

i know im suppose to post at least once a week so i apologize for not keeping up with it, but i had a crazy week. i decided to try out for the tennis team at my school for fun, considering that they're the best in their division and did well at nationals. after taking a year off from the game i figured id just go out and have fun but i ended up making the team. granted its the bottom spot, but i can train and work my way up a few spots and play the game i love. i seriously almost cried as i was walking back to my dorm after my last win. i thought i would never be a tennis player again (you have to understand, ive played for more then 10 years, ive done tournaments my whole life etc.).

but ya, it was so hard not to grin as i was walking around yesterday (that was the last day of tryouts) and went out with the team to celebrate and got completely wasted. overall it was a very good weekend. i also got this girls #, it didnt go over very smoothely but eh, i guess she thought i was cute.

how it went down: i was mildly inebriated, hangin out with some friends, and i realized that i was having the best day ever. so i decided to go talk to this cute redhead, i figured even if she kicked me in the balls, nothing short of my parents/friends dieing would kill my mood that evening.

but ya, ill begin week 2 on monday, i have a crapload of homework/reading to catch up on
 
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