"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Boot Camp Thread (Opening May 2nd)
- Thread starter One on One
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Elevenbravo
Don Juan
Also why not have multiple partners if there is an uneven number.
Nickell511`
Don Juan
JT47319
Master Don Juan
AIM: eventus000
MSN: [email protected]
ICQ: 115666320
I use trillian so I'm on all of them.
Run down on today
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Forgot about the bootcamp. But I happened to have 2 eye contacts and one hello, which ended up a conversation. But tomorrow I shall do more because I know that's I'm doing it now.
CIAO.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
prometheus
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Gonna start today.. but got a story to share....
Went out the other nite... read some confidence builder stuff off here before I went, just to see what happens. Anyway, went out, was having fun, and got approached by a HB7. Started convo about tattoos, kino started right away. I was showing her mine, shes showing me hers type stuff. Told her to come outside the club with me, cause we couldnt really talk to much in there. She says that my confidence was a big turn on...lol. Kissed closed, exchanged numbers and going back out with her in couple of days.
All about attitude and confidence.... then get the kino going and everything else will follow.
CGE333
Senior Don Juan
Getting a late start but I got 3 Hi's out so far. Everyone that is doing this make sure you complete it. The last time I started- did not get all the way to the end, but one of the #'s I got is still my F-Buddy to this day (4 months later)...
Lost
Master Don Juan
.....felt sorta worried when i had arrived to skool.
strange cuz ive done this plenty of times. ... but today i totally wussed out. I tried to realise nothin bad would happen.. and when i thought about it i sorta realised it.. but i still was afraid to do it for some reason.
ahh whatsup with that?
i even went to barnes n noble afterwards..... but i was still scared to do it.
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
Sunday, I got about 9-10 hi's
Today is not over and I am going out to eat up in a little town.
Does people I am acquainted with but don't really talk (i.e. never or almost never) to at school count because I said "hi" to them and have a little convo with them today?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
TheCollector
Don Juan
One on One
Master Don Juan
Didn't have time to out Sunday, but managed 3 His today. They weren't too solid though...lady at CVS, neighbor lady I don't see much, and dude at GNC. I had a short convo with the guy at GNC and I usually don't talk to cashiers much so that was a positive.
I'll give more of an effort tomorrow.
Nickell511`
Don Juan
CONGRATS on the first day everyone!
today i got about 10 eyecontacts and 6 hi's....not bad but i could of done better (choked a few times)
matter of fact i think we all could of done better today! So tomorrow i challenge everyone to get 5 more hi's + ec's than you did today
Ok off to bed exams tomorrow :/
Lost
Master Don Juan
Day2
Still hesitant..... i tried to focus like i used to on the past. Like Zone in on one person ... but when i would look at them, i wouldnt hold it.
wtf/......
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Microphone Fiend
Master Don Juan
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
another 10 hi's
yesterday
today 4 and I am going out now
total 24
One on One
Master Don Juan
Ugh, only 1 Hi today. Eye contact is no problem for me, although everybody else seems to avoid it. My total is 4 so this is a really slow start, but I will get 50. It's been hard for me to find people around. The malls seem to be empty when I go during the afternoon. I work tomorrow so I will try to get a bunch of His after work tomorrow.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.