"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Books that changed how you socially interact?

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For me "the rational male", "how to win friends and influence people" and "48 laws of power" have been the most profound. What about you guys? Any recommendations?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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How I Found Freedom in an Unfree World.

That one really opened my mind to everything else.
That was around a decade ago.

That book is all about letting go of your preconceived notions. About everything.

I ended up a fvcking beast.

For better or worse, depending who you ask.
 
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After that I found my way to philosophy.

Schopenhauer, for sure.

Seneca, fine tuned it.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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That was around a decade ago.

That book is all about letting go of your preconceived notions. About everything.

I ended up a fvcking beast.

For better or worse, depending who you ask.
I will check it out along with the 48 laws of power mentioned above.

Creative visualization by Shakti Gawain changed my life while still living at home.
 
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I will check it out along with the 48 laws of power mentioned above.

Creative visualization by Shakti Gawain changed my life while still living at home.
Harry Browne's book is more immediately useful.

I'm sure people that studied the fvck out of the 48 Laws eventually found it useful...

...I never did.
 

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The Art of War by Sun Tzu

The Winner Effect by Ian Robertson

What Women Want When They Test Men by Bruce Bryans
 
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The 50th Law was Robert Greene's best book, in my opinion.

One of my favorites, too
 
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The 50th Law was Robert Greene's best book, in my opinion.

One of my favorites, too
He finally cut through the subversiveness, and started giving actual advice.

Albeit through another person.

But still.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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50 shades of grey.
Jilly coopers riders.
 

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He finally cut through the subversiveness, and started giving actual advice.

Albeit through another person.

But still.
I got it.

It is a posh looking book too. I love gilt-edged pages

#womenloveshinythings
 

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The list is ****ing long, but Think and Grow Rich is a great start.

And yes, changing how you act socially begins with finance.
 

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Meditations by Marcus Aurelius. It was his personal journal and on his deathbed he wanted it burned. The scribes decided it was too valuable and made it into a book. I reread it at least once a year.

I see a couple here I haven't read, I'll check them out.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Meditations by Marcus Aurelius. It was his personal journal and on his deathbed he wanted it burned. The scribes decided it was too valuable and made it into a book. I reread it at least once a year.

I see a couple here I haven't read, I'll check them out.
Yep, i burned it, too. Along with psycho-cybernetics.

Not really. I still have them. Great books.
 

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@EyeOnThePrize great emporer told you to stand around and take it, huh?

Swallow it like a man, huh?
Take it, yes, stand around? Fuuck no.

The message is either learn how to be inspired by it and grow from it or kill yourself. Those are the options. There's no third option of whining like a biitch or doing nothing. He says just kill yourself if you're going to do that and then explains why lol I love it.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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