"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Books that changed how you socially interact?

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For me "the rational male", "how to win friends and influence people" and "48 laws of power" have been the most profound. What about you guys? Any recommendations?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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How I Found Freedom in an Unfree World.

That one really opened my mind to everything else.
That was around a decade ago.

That book is all about letting go of your preconceived notions. About everything.

I ended up a fvcking beast.

For better or worse, depending who you ask.
 
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After that I found my way to philosophy.

Schopenhauer, for sure.

Seneca, fine tuned it.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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That was around a decade ago.

That book is all about letting go of your preconceived notions. About everything.

I ended up a fvcking beast.

For better or worse, depending who you ask.
I will check it out along with the 48 laws of power mentioned above.

Creative visualization by Shakti Gawain changed my life while still living at home.
 
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I will check it out along with the 48 laws of power mentioned above.

Creative visualization by Shakti Gawain changed my life while still living at home.
Harry Browne's book is more immediately useful.

I'm sure people that studied the fvck out of the 48 Laws eventually found it useful...

...I never did.
 

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The Art of War by Sun Tzu

The Winner Effect by Ian Robertson

What Women Want When They Test Men by Bruce Bryans
 
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The 50th Law was Robert Greene's best book, in my opinion.

One of my favorites, too
 
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The 50th Law was Robert Greene's best book, in my opinion.

One of my favorites, too
He finally cut through the subversiveness, and started giving actual advice.

Albeit through another person.

But still.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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50 shades of grey.
Jilly coopers riders.
 

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He finally cut through the subversiveness, and started giving actual advice.

Albeit through another person.

But still.
I got it.

It is a posh looking book too. I love gilt-edged pages

#womenloveshinythings
 

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The list is ****ing long, but Think and Grow Rich is a great start.

And yes, changing how you act socially begins with finance.
 

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Meditations by Marcus Aurelius. It was his personal journal and on his deathbed he wanted it burned. The scribes decided it was too valuable and made it into a book. I reread it at least once a year.

I see a couple here I haven't read, I'll check them out.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Meditations by Marcus Aurelius. It was his personal journal and on his deathbed he wanted it burned. The scribes decided it was too valuable and made it into a book. I reread it at least once a year.

I see a couple here I haven't read, I'll check them out.
Yep, i burned it, too. Along with psycho-cybernetics.

Not really. I still have them. Great books.
 

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@EyeOnThePrize great emporer told you to stand around and take it, huh?

Swallow it like a man, huh?
Take it, yes, stand around? Fuuck no.

The message is either learn how to be inspired by it and grow from it or kill yourself. Those are the options. There's no third option of whining like a biitch or doing nothing. He says just kill yourself if you're going to do that and then explains why lol I love it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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