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Most of socializing depends on your look and your inner game, I would rather be a good looking self confident guy with no knowledge than an average looking guy full of doubts who read all the marketing books available.

Sure you need some guidelines and need to read many situations, but the same exact setting show itself differently according to who is facing it.
 
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Learning how to socialize by reading a book is kind of like learning how to swim by reading a book. It's not going to work.
Not related in the slightest sense
 
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Most of socializing depends on your look and your inner game, I would rather be a good looking self confident guy with no knowledge than an average looking guy full of doubts who read all the marketing books available.

Sure you need some guidelines and need to read many situations, but the same exact setting show itself differently according to who is facing it.
Obviously, it would be great to have been dealt a better hand. Doesn't mean a guy should call it quits.

You CAN learn how to socialize from reading a book. That's the point of game. You learn how to interact with people.

I'm sure you've met men that were smooth talkers that you couldn't help but like. I know I have. That's game.
 

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Obviously, it would be great to have been dealt a better hand. Doesn't mean a guy should call it quits.

You CAN learn how to socialize from reading a book. That's the point of game. You learn how to interact with people.

I'm sure you've met men that were smooth talkers that you couldn't help but like. I know I have. That's game.
I'm an average guy with amazing social skills, I dont complain from the results I get both in terms of work and women yet I see goodlooking guys with a better upbringing than mine yet with average to low social skills getting as much as I am.

My post wasnt and invited to let it go but simply a statement, where there is a change to improve looks it will help even in further fields, basically anything socially related.

For many guys 3 months at the gym, a better haircut and better clothes would pay more rewards than reading books in that same time span, not that books wouldnt help ofc, best thing would be doing everything.
 

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For many guys 3 months at the gym, a better haircut and better clothes would pay more rewards than reading books in that same time span, not that books wouldnt help ofc, best thing would be doing everything.
I disagree.

How to Win Friends and Influence People is a game changer for most people. It was for me.

Most people only care about their own sh1tty life, and that's all they care to talk about. It never crosses their mind that the other person doesn't give a sh1t, and only wants to talk about THEIR sh1tty life
 
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Working out, getting big and strong? Takes years.

Learning how to talk to people takes weeks to months.

They don't compare.
 

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I disagree.

How to Win Friends and Influence People is a game changer for most people. It was for me.

Most people only care about their own sh1tty life, and that's all they care to talk about. It never crosses their mind that the other person doesn't give a sh1t, and only wants to talk about THEIR sh1tty life
Yeah I read that book last year. I'd heard about it since 1992 when I first picked up Anthony Robbins' "Awaken the Giant Within" and "Personal Power." I made a speech on the former and my classmates thought my mom had written my speech cause it didn't sound like me at all, but that got the ball rollin as far as internalizing success info. The book "Self Help" was written in the mid-1800s around the time of Darwin and the author of it competed with Darwin in social engineering discussions/debates. Darwin was a Utilitarian.

How to Win Friends and Influence People is the fundamentals that people don't remind themselves of over and over. We lose track.
 

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If you've set your mind on books, then I would suggest Robert Greene's The Art of Seduction..... "Seduction" in this book's context isnt limited to s3xual seduction, Greene emphasizes that seduction is a form of manipulation and social engineering to get others to do what you want. Example: the way politicians use seduction and charisma to manipulate the masses....

You can find the audiobook on youtube... I used to listen to chapters of it at the gym during cardio sessions...
 

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If you've set your mind on books, then I would suggest Robert Greene's The Art of Seduction..... "Seduction" in this book's context isnt limited to s3xual seduction, Greene emphasizes that seduction is a form of manipulation and social engineering to get others to do what you want. Example: the way politicians use seduction and charisma to manipulate the masses....

You can find the audiobook on youtube... I used to listen to chapters of it at the gym during cardio sessions...
Might as well get the classic, The 48 Laws of Power.
 

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Yeah I read that book last year. I'd heard about it since 1992 when I first picked up Anthony Robbins' "Awaken the Giant Within" and "Personal Power." I made a speech on the former and my classmates thought my mom had written my speech cause it didn't sound like me at all, but that got the ball rollin as far as internalizing success info. The book "Self Help" was written in the mid-1800s around the time of Darwin and the author of it competed with Darwin in social engineering discussions/debates. Darwin was a Utilitarian.

How to Win Friends and Influence People is the fundamentals that people don't remind themselves of over and over. We lose track.

Another old one that goes under the radar.
 
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Psycho-Cybernetics, Art of Seduction, and HTWFAIP (Carnegie) are all great books. Though I get a little bored with the anecdotes ("so-and-so did this and tried that and it worked!"), but as long as you soak in the tenets, you'll be well motivated to put them into practice.

I don't get the anti-book opinions. Reading is a huge part of self-improvement. If it happens to be a self-improvement book, even better. Yes you should go out and socialize but nobody is out and about 100% of the time and every man needs down time. If the OP had asked what TV shows are good you'd all be telling him to turn off his TV and pick up a book, lol. If he asked what to say on an approach some of you would say "just work on yourself." There's way too much ethereal bullshyt on this site sometimes in place of concrete answers. The poor guy asked for book titles for christ's sake.
 

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How to talk to anyone by Leil lowndes.

How to make people like you in 90 seconds.

The art of charm.

The best thing is go out there and learn from others and start slowly, make some small talk about anything and get yourself out there.
 

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Also make eye contact with people and say hi/hello.

Then after chat about something relevant or the weather or something.
 
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