"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Booked a trip from California to Florida to see girl I met online, she flakes.
- Thread starter calitoflorida
- Start date
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Naughty Ninja
Banned
To get stood up by a dude! Hahahahahahahaha
Moral of the story: O.P should've booked a one way flight on LiveFreeX Airlines to China and he never would've been in his "predicament".
This chick was in a marriage of 20 or so years and the sex had died off completely. She went to Italy with her husband on vacation. While she was there, some young Italian guy who was a waiter at the restaurant in their hotel kept telling her how sexy and beautiful she was. No sex with him but he was all over her during the trip. The husband didn't seem to care.
So she gets back to the ol' USA with her husband. She exchanges emails with the Italian guy for a couple of months and he writes about how amazing she is.
So she initiates divorce proceedings with her husband who is totally surprised. While the divorce is pending (6 month waiting period in Calif), she flies back to Italy to surprise this Italian guy.
She gets back to the hotel, he's there and is surprised to see her. He tells her thanks but no thanks, he's got a girlfriend. She spends her entire week there trying to convince him to sleep with her. He refuses.
Crushed, she returns to the US and a couple months later is divorced from her husband. Now she trolls the online dating boards looking for love. I banged her after 2 drinks and came on her t*ts (which were fabulous BTW).
So it could be worse. You could be a woman who's hit the wall.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
calitoflorida said:
sorry to hear about your story. as you learned, women are b!tches, and that's why this site along with countless others (along with the male-female schism) exists. as you've learned-don't ever (with rare exceptions) bend over backwards for a female.
spend time browsing the countless threads and archives here and your eyes will open. good luck