"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Booked a trip from California to Florida to see girl I met online, she flakes.
- Thread starter calitoflorida
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Naughty Ninja
Banned
To get stood up by a dude! Hahahahahahahaha
Moral of the story: O.P should've booked a one way flight on LiveFreeX Airlines to China and he never would've been in his "predicament".
This chick was in a marriage of 20 or so years and the sex had died off completely. She went to Italy with her husband on vacation. While she was there, some young Italian guy who was a waiter at the restaurant in their hotel kept telling her how sexy and beautiful she was. No sex with him but he was all over her during the trip. The husband didn't seem to care.
So she gets back to the ol' USA with her husband. She exchanges emails with the Italian guy for a couple of months and he writes about how amazing she is.
So she initiates divorce proceedings with her husband who is totally surprised. While the divorce is pending (6 month waiting period in Calif), she flies back to Italy to surprise this Italian guy.
She gets back to the hotel, he's there and is surprised to see her. He tells her thanks but no thanks, he's got a girlfriend. She spends her entire week there trying to convince him to sleep with her. He refuses.
Crushed, she returns to the US and a couple months later is divorced from her husband. Now she trolls the online dating boards looking for love. I banged her after 2 drinks and came on her t*ts (which were fabulous BTW).
So it could be worse. You could be a woman who's hit the wall.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
calitoflorida said:
sorry to hear about your story. as you learned, women are b!tches, and that's why this site along with countless others (along with the male-female schism) exists. as you've learned-don't ever (with rare exceptions) bend over backwards for a female.
spend time browsing the countless threads and archives here and your eyes will open. good luck