"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Booked a trip from California to Florida to see girl I met online, she flakes.
- Thread starter calitoflorida
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Naughty Ninja
Banned
To get stood up by a dude! Hahahahahahahaha
Moral of the story: O.P should've booked a one way flight on LiveFreeX Airlines to China and he never would've been in his "predicament".
This chick was in a marriage of 20 or so years and the sex had died off completely. She went to Italy with her husband on vacation. While she was there, some young Italian guy who was a waiter at the restaurant in their hotel kept telling her how sexy and beautiful she was. No sex with him but he was all over her during the trip. The husband didn't seem to care.
So she gets back to the ol' USA with her husband. She exchanges emails with the Italian guy for a couple of months and he writes about how amazing she is.
So she initiates divorce proceedings with her husband who is totally surprised. While the divorce is pending (6 month waiting period in Calif), she flies back to Italy to surprise this Italian guy.
She gets back to the hotel, he's there and is surprised to see her. He tells her thanks but no thanks, he's got a girlfriend. She spends her entire week there trying to convince him to sleep with her. He refuses.
Crushed, she returns to the US and a couple months later is divorced from her husband. Now she trolls the online dating boards looking for love. I banged her after 2 drinks and came on her t*ts (which were fabulous BTW).
So it could be worse. You could be a woman who's hit the wall.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
calitoflorida said:
sorry to hear about your story. as you learned, women are b!tches, and that's why this site along with countless others (along with the male-female schism) exists. as you've learned-don't ever (with rare exceptions) bend over backwards for a female.
spend time browsing the countless threads and archives here and your eyes will open. good luck