"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What does it mean when a women keeps turning towards when your back is turned. Additionally, why does she turn her back sometimes when I’m near. Is it normal for a woman to blatantly look a man in his eyes as he walks pass?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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What does it mean when a women keeps turning towards when your back is turned. Additionally, why does she turn her back sometimes when I’m near. Is it normal for a woman to blatantly look a man in his eyes as he walks pass?
1. A woman trying to face you directly despite your back being turned is probably a sign of interest.

2. Turning her back when you are near is probably a sign of lack of interest. She’s probably intentionally avoiding eye contact (and possible conversation).

3. If she blatantly looks a guy in the eye as he passes, that is a pretty strong sign of interest.

A female therapist once told me, “Women only look at guys they are attracted to.” This (and especially the flip side lol) match my experience exactly.
 

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1. A woman trying to face you directly despite your back being turned is probably a sign of interest.

2. Turning her back when you are near is probably a sign of lack of interest. She’s probably intentionally avoiding eye contact (and possible conversation).

3. If she blatantly looks a guy in the eye as he passes, that is a pretty strong sign of interest.

A female therapist once told me, “Women only look at guys they are attracted to.” This (and especially the flip side lol) match my experience exactly.

Okay, what if these signs are coming from one person. Also, say this person also happens to hold your gaze when you look (3-5 seconds).
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Okay, what if these signs are coming from one person. Also, say this person also happens to hold your gaze when you look (3-5 seconds).
Humans are inconsistent. Never expect all body language to match up exactly.

If, on average, she makes a lot of eye contact with you, good.

If, on average, she avoids eye contact with you, not good.
 

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Humans are inconsistent. Never expect all body language to match up exactly.

If, on average, she makes a lot of eye contact with you, good.

If, on average, she avoids eye contact with you, not good.
Body language never lies, but the mouth does. And the eyes are the window into the soul.

Watch this, it's absolute gold.
 

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Humans are inconsistent. Never expect all body language to match up exactly.

If, on average, she makes a lot of eye contact with you, good.

If, on average, she avoids eye contact with you, not good.
Exactly right, when it comes to body language there will be some initial clues, but her consistency will let a man know whats up …
Early stages, generally 2-3 positives outweigh one negative. If it’s only 50/50 there’s not much there.
 

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I think cues are very subtle but they seem
to work. I am VERY standoffish with touch at first so i use other methods to show interest. When i start to really get interested in a man i will use his name a lot, i smile at him when he walks up to me (i have been told by many guys this is what they first noticed about me), I play with my necklace, I blush a lot in their presence, I ask them personal, questions, when talking I lean into him or move closer, i * allow him to touch me (meaning i don’t move away or stiffen), I slightly mirror him.

Probs more that I can’t recall right now because all of these are just automatic.
 

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I think cues are very subtle but they seem
to work. I am VERY standoffish with touch at first so i use other methods to show interest. When i start to really get interested in a man i will use his name a lot, i smile at him when he walks up to me (i have been told by many guys this is what they first noticed about me), I play with my necklace, I blush a lot in their presence, I ask them personal, questions, when talking I lean into him or move closer, i * allow him to touch me (meaning i don’t move away or stiffen), I slightly mirror him.

Probs more that I can’t recall right now because all of these are just automatic.
From a females perspective, why does she look at me intently when I walk by her? For instance, say I have to walk by her to leave an area, I could feel her staring even if she’s preoccupied with something else (e.g. on her phone)? Also, is bad if a women holds your gaze?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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