"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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What does it mean when a women keeps turning towards when your back is turned. Additionally, why does she turn her back sometimes when I’m near. Is it normal for a woman to blatantly look a man in his eyes as he walks pass?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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What does it mean when a women keeps turning towards when your back is turned. Additionally, why does she turn her back sometimes when I’m near. Is it normal for a woman to blatantly look a man in his eyes as he walks pass?
1. A woman trying to face you directly despite your back being turned is probably a sign of interest.

2. Turning her back when you are near is probably a sign of lack of interest. She’s probably intentionally avoiding eye contact (and possible conversation).

3. If she blatantly looks a guy in the eye as he passes, that is a pretty strong sign of interest.

A female therapist once told me, “Women only look at guys they are attracted to.” This (and especially the flip side lol) match my experience exactly.
 

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1. A woman trying to face you directly despite your back being turned is probably a sign of interest.

2. Turning her back when you are near is probably a sign of lack of interest. She’s probably intentionally avoiding eye contact (and possible conversation).

3. If she blatantly looks a guy in the eye as he passes, that is a pretty strong sign of interest.

A female therapist once told me, “Women only look at guys they are attracted to.” This (and especially the flip side lol) match my experience exactly.

Okay, what if these signs are coming from one person. Also, say this person also happens to hold your gaze when you look (3-5 seconds).
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Okay, what if these signs are coming from one person. Also, say this person also happens to hold your gaze when you look (3-5 seconds).
Humans are inconsistent. Never expect all body language to match up exactly.

If, on average, she makes a lot of eye contact with you, good.

If, on average, she avoids eye contact with you, not good.
 

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Humans are inconsistent. Never expect all body language to match up exactly.

If, on average, she makes a lot of eye contact with you, good.

If, on average, she avoids eye contact with you, not good.
Body language never lies, but the mouth does. And the eyes are the window into the soul.

Watch this, it's absolute gold.
 

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Humans are inconsistent. Never expect all body language to match up exactly.

If, on average, she makes a lot of eye contact with you, good.

If, on average, she avoids eye contact with you, not good.
Exactly right, when it comes to body language there will be some initial clues, but her consistency will let a man know whats up …
Early stages, generally 2-3 positives outweigh one negative. If it’s only 50/50 there’s not much there.
 

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I think cues are very subtle but they seem
to work. I am VERY standoffish with touch at first so i use other methods to show interest. When i start to really get interested in a man i will use his name a lot, i smile at him when he walks up to me (i have been told by many guys this is what they first noticed about me), I play with my necklace, I blush a lot in their presence, I ask them personal, questions, when talking I lean into him or move closer, i * allow him to touch me (meaning i don’t move away or stiffen), I slightly mirror him.

Probs more that I can’t recall right now because all of these are just automatic.
 

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I think cues are very subtle but they seem
to work. I am VERY standoffish with touch at first so i use other methods to show interest. When i start to really get interested in a man i will use his name a lot, i smile at him when he walks up to me (i have been told by many guys this is what they first noticed about me), I play with my necklace, I blush a lot in their presence, I ask them personal, questions, when talking I lean into him or move closer, i * allow him to touch me (meaning i don’t move away or stiffen), I slightly mirror him.

Probs more that I can’t recall right now because all of these are just automatic.
From a females perspective, why does she look at me intently when I walk by her? For instance, say I have to walk by her to leave an area, I could feel her staring even if she’s preoccupied with something else (e.g. on her phone)? Also, is bad if a women holds your gaze?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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