"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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body language experts: please advise personal space zone ?

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when a girl moves or stays about three feet from you ,

or when she comes to you but stays about three feet away..

but she still talks to you ...or or keeps looking at you or pointing her feet at you....

does that mean, that she is not interested physically in you.....or does that mean she is scarred of you or feels threatened ?

Or does it mean she doesn't want to show interest....

....
WTF does it mean ? I had this incident in the mall, I approach and the women move back three feet away, so I thought she's not interested, she's waiting for her daughter.,but she keeps loooking at me...?
 

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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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why do you care?

dont read into it too much.

you complicate yourself. Talk to her, get her number or ask her out on a date,
or kiss her on the spot whatever level you are confortable with.

just do what you want to do and the reaction will let you know.


FOR EVERY ACTION THERE IS A EQUAL REACTION so if you kiss then they kiss (if they are not attracted theyll let you know by moving their head, turning it into a hug or something)
 

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assume she's into you and just talk, but i would think if you moved closer and she moved away that yeah.. your chances are slim to none
 

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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Body language hueristics must be interpreted as groups of related signs, rather than as lone, causal indicators.
 

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I'll tell you what it means. It means that you're spending too much time analyzing things in your head instead if taking action.
 

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TillTheEndOfTime said:
I'll tell you what it means. It means that you're spending too much time analyzing things in your head instead if taking action.


Exactly...


Once you have to retreat to think about it, it is minigless. You must be present and respond immediately. She comes and stops 3 feet away from you. What do you expect? Her, 2 inches away from your face? Unfortunately girls don't do that.

Coming that close is an indicator of getting your attention. She is showing attention. Which in itself is minigless, since reasons for showing attention could be different. A) Shes into you, B) She wants her ego stroked, C) She wants to borrow a pencil, D) etc, etc, etc...


By taking action, he means find out what is it that she wants. Assuming she wants you to bone her on one single action is not reasonable and often you arrive to incorrect conclusions. Instead, you asses all her actions. By taking action you are presenting her with opprotunity to show you more..
 

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everywomanshero said:
Body language hueristics must be interpreted as groups of related signs, rather than as lone, causal indicators.

ok...go on
 

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KneghtRyder said:
when a girl moves or stays about three feet from you ,

or when she comes to you but stays about three feet away..
Usually means she is waiting for me to give her my order. Damn, some of you guys must just sit around thinking up things to worry about.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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