"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Ziro

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I don't know what it is, but I always blush whenever I talk to someone I don't know- even if I'm not really that nervous at all. Is there anything I can do to counter this?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Black Panther®

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dam...my answer to this is that may be you are not used to talk in front of people, or hold conversations with people, and are afraid, shy that the person you conversating with might think that what you are saying is stupid.

There could be a million reasons why this is happening, but only YOU can know this.

Take a look at why you feel this way. What are you thinking about the other person while you are talking to her/him.

You know the answer, although you might not see it right away.
 

SexPDX

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I used to blush a lot. I still do sometimes. When I do it's very pronounced and the chick will likely notice it. This is a situation where I use what I call a "self-neg". Example:

HB: Wow, you're turning red.
PDX: Yeah, I do that a lot. Seriously, I am a PROFESSIONAL blusher. Speaking of that, I want your opinion on something. I was thinking of dying my hair blonde but I think it might look funny when I blush like this. What do you think?

By calling myself a "professional blusher" I demonstrate that I am comfortable enough to talk about my flaws. In fact I sound like I am proud of them. Very disarming.

-PDX
 

jakeyboy

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Originally posted by SexPDX
HB: Wow, you're turning red.
PDX: Yeah, I do that a lot. Seriously, I am a PROFESSIONAL blusher. Speaking of that, I want your opinion on something. I was thinking of dying my hair blonde but I think it might look funny when I blush like this. What do you think?

By calling myself a "professional blusher" I demonstrate that I am comfortable enough to talk about my flaws. In fact I sound like I am proud of them. Very disarming.

-PDX
haha, great example mate, thanks! i'll be sure to use it the next time some girl says that.
 

Layla

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Originally posted by Ziro
I don't know what it is, but I always blush whenever I talk to someone I don't know- even if I'm not really that nervous at all. Is there anything I can do to counter this?
yeah i have the same problem, i just blush a lot sometimes for no real reason. its ben like that my whole life
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Tweek_1984

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I see a psychologist and she told me that blushing when talking to the opposite sex or someone who is of higher status than yourself is known as 'social phobia'. It's a condition whereby you are very self aware and maybe act differently to look good infront of said person.

This is proven when a hot chick is talking to you and you start going red, and you know you are, but you've been so self-aware that when she stops talking, you haven't a clue what she just said.

The best way to combat this is to concentrate on her and what she/he has to say. The only way to stop being self-aware is just psycological unfortunately. One day you'll just stop caring. It all comes with age I suppose. You dont see 40 year old men blushing alot.
 
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