She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
haha, great example mate, thanks! i'll be sure to use it the next time some girl says that.Originally posted by SexPDX
HB: Wow, you're turning red.
PDX: Yeah, I do that a lot. Seriously, I am a PROFESSIONAL blusher. Speaking of that, I want your opinion on something. I was thinking of dying my hair blonde but I think it might look funny when I blush like this. What do you think?
By calling myself a "professional blusher" I demonstrate that I am comfortable enough to talk about my flaws. In fact I sound like I am proud of them. Very disarming.
-PDX
yeah i have the same problem, i just blush a lot sometimes for no real reason. its ben like that my whole lifeOriginally posted by Ziro
I don't know what it is, but I always blush whenever I talk to someone I don't know- even if I'm not really that nervous at all. Is there anything I can do to counter this?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.