"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Blood boils when I see the guy my ex cheated on me with!

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I just want to beat the crap out of him. (this occurred a few months ago). Any advice?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I tend to blame the hor far more than the guy. Where was her loyalty to you?
 

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bullethead said:
I just want to beat the crap out of him. (this occurred a few months ago). Any advice?
I have a friend who said the same thing but just like i told him and in my own experience... Is it the guys fault? I could understand if you knew the guy and he KNEW that was your GF yet still continued to try to get with her or if he was your friend, then that makes the case for breaking his arm and face but im assuming he didnt know you and you didnt know him so really, who is to blame? Your ex GF because she KNEW you were together, yet went on and let another dude get in with her. I agree with Atom Smasher, its much more her fault for cheating in the first place.
 

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In2theGame said:
I have a friend who said the same thing but just like i told him and in my own experience... Is it the guys fault? I could understand if you knew the guy and he KNEW that was your GF yet still continued to try to get with her or if he was your friend, then that makes the case for breaking his arm and face but im assuming he didnt know you and you didnt know him so really, who is to blame? Your ex GF because she KNEW you were together, yet went on and let another dude get in with her. I agree with Atom Smasher, its much more her fault for cheating in the first place.
It is kind of complicated. She cheated on me with him. I dumped her. He found out later that she was dating me and he dumped her. A few months later he hooks up with her again and dumps her again. So do I have an excuse to beat the crap out of him?
 

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Atom Smasher said:
I tend to blame the hor far more than the guy. Where was her loyalty to you?
I'd blame myself over either of them.

1. We are in an age of unchecked hordom.
2. Hypergamy gonna hypergamy.
3. She obviously saw him as a shinier object, meaning I've dropped the ball.
4. Women don't swing to perceived lesser branches.
5. The guy? He's irrelevant.

I've discussed this scenario once or twice before and I can say with 100 % honesty if I came home and found some guy balls deep in my Mrs I wouldn't feel anger in the slightest, I'd be taken aback and surprised sure but I'd instantly know whats up. I'd even go grab him a cold beer, get my sh!t in order and just be on my merry way.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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bullethead said:
It is kind of complicated. She cheated on me with him. I dumped her. He found out later that she was dating me and he dumped her. A few months later he hooks up with her again and dumps her again. So do I have an excuse to beat the crap out of him?
How im reading this is you kicked her to the side because she cheated on you with the guy, then He does the same once he finds out she was with you, So basically you guys both dumped her. If you dumped her then that should be it. He probably dated her again for some azz then kicked her to the side again.
 

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I'd blame myself over either of them.

1. We are in an age of unchecked hordom.
2. Hypergamy gonna hypergamy.
3. She obviously saw him as a shinier object, meaning I've dropped the ball.
4. Women don't swing to perceived lesser branches.
5. The guy? He's irrelevant.
I agree the guy is irrelevant. I agree with Atom Smasher, I blame the girl, where's her loyalty? I don't like the idea of blaming myself because why should I beat myself up just because the girl turned out to be a wh0re? Maybe I might blame myself for not being selective enough.

I like your attitude of using it to better yourself though.
 
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Only weak people succumb to temptation, your ex-girlfriend is a weak person, hence why she succumbed to this man's advances. My anger wouldn't be with this man, it would be with the girl, she betrayed you, not him.

Also I disagree that this is entirely your fault. That is what a lot of women say when they are caught cheating i.e. you didn't show me enough affection and whatever else. If she felt unhappy in the relationship she should have been strong enough to sit down like a mature and sensible person and discuss the issues she had instead of rushing out of the door and onto someone else's penis.

Just be glad you got shot of this cretin and ride forth towards better times. :up:
 

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bullethead said:
It is kind of complicated. She cheated on me with him. I dumped her. He found out later that she was dating me and he dumped her. A few months later he hooks up with her again and dumps her again. So do I have an excuse to beat the crap out of him?
Man, I been through exactly that as "the other man." She was staying at her mother's place, so it sure looked like she'd broken up with him.

Fight? Marquess of Queensbury rules? Pistols at dawn? Oh pleeze! Get over yourself. You dumped her. You don't want her. So isn't it stupid as fvck to fight for something you don't want?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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