bullethead
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I just want to beat the crap out of him. (this occurred a few months ago). Any advice?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I have a friend who said the same thing but just like i told him and in my own experience... Is it the guys fault? I could understand if you knew the guy and he KNEW that was your GF yet still continued to try to get with her or if he was your friend, then that makes the case for breaking his arm and face but im assuming he didnt know you and you didnt know him so really, who is to blame? Your ex GF because she KNEW you were together, yet went on and let another dude get in with her. I agree with Atom Smasher, its much more her fault for cheating in the first place.bullethead said:I just want to beat the crap out of him. (this occurred a few months ago). Any advice?
It is kind of complicated. She cheated on me with him. I dumped her. He found out later that she was dating me and he dumped her. A few months later he hooks up with her again and dumps her again. So do I have an excuse to beat the crap out of him?In2theGame said:I have a friend who said the same thing but just like i told him and in my own experience... Is it the guys fault? I could understand if you knew the guy and he KNEW that was your GF yet still continued to try to get with her or if he was your friend, then that makes the case for breaking his arm and face but im assuming he didnt know you and you didnt know him so really, who is to blame? Your ex GF because she KNEW you were together, yet went on and let another dude get in with her. I agree with Atom Smasher, its much more her fault for cheating in the first place.
I'd blame myself over either of them.Atom Smasher said:I tend to blame the hor far more than the guy. Where was her loyalty to you?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
How im reading this is you kicked her to the side because she cheated on you with the guy, then He does the same once he finds out she was with you, So basically you guys both dumped her. If you dumped her then that should be it. He probably dated her again for some azz then kicked her to the side again.bullethead said:It is kind of complicated. She cheated on me with him. I dumped her. He found out later that she was dating me and he dumped her. A few months later he hooks up with her again and dumps her again. So do I have an excuse to beat the crap out of him?
( . )( . ) said:I'd even go grab him a cold beer,.
I agree the guy is irrelevant. I agree with Atom Smasher, I blame the girl, where's her loyalty? I don't like the idea of blaming myself because why should I beat myself up just because the girl turned out to be a wh0re? Maybe I might blame myself for not being selective enough.( . )( . ) said:I'd blame myself over either of them.
1. We are in an age of unchecked hordom.
2. Hypergamy gonna hypergamy.
3. She obviously saw him as a shinier object, meaning I've dropped the ball.
4. Women don't swing to perceived lesser branches.
5. The guy? He's irrelevant.
Man, I been through exactly that as "the other man." She was staying at her mother's place, so it sure looked like she'd broken up with him.bullethead said:It is kind of complicated. She cheated on me with him. I dumped her. He found out later that she was dating me and he dumped her. A few months later he hooks up with her again and dumps her again. So do I have an excuse to beat the crap out of him?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.