“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Blood boils when I see the guy my ex cheated on me with!

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I just want to beat the crap out of him. (this occurred a few months ago). Any advice?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I tend to blame the hor far more than the guy. Where was her loyalty to you?
 

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bullethead said:
I just want to beat the crap out of him. (this occurred a few months ago). Any advice?
I have a friend who said the same thing but just like i told him and in my own experience... Is it the guys fault? I could understand if you knew the guy and he KNEW that was your GF yet still continued to try to get with her or if he was your friend, then that makes the case for breaking his arm and face but im assuming he didnt know you and you didnt know him so really, who is to blame? Your ex GF because she KNEW you were together, yet went on and let another dude get in with her. I agree with Atom Smasher, its much more her fault for cheating in the first place.
 

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In2theGame said:
I have a friend who said the same thing but just like i told him and in my own experience... Is it the guys fault? I could understand if you knew the guy and he KNEW that was your GF yet still continued to try to get with her or if he was your friend, then that makes the case for breaking his arm and face but im assuming he didnt know you and you didnt know him so really, who is to blame? Your ex GF because she KNEW you were together, yet went on and let another dude get in with her. I agree with Atom Smasher, its much more her fault for cheating in the first place.
It is kind of complicated. She cheated on me with him. I dumped her. He found out later that she was dating me and he dumped her. A few months later he hooks up with her again and dumps her again. So do I have an excuse to beat the crap out of him?
 

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Atom Smasher said:
I tend to blame the hor far more than the guy. Where was her loyalty to you?
I'd blame myself over either of them.

1. We are in an age of unchecked hordom.
2. Hypergamy gonna hypergamy.
3. She obviously saw him as a shinier object, meaning I've dropped the ball.
4. Women don't swing to perceived lesser branches.
5. The guy? He's irrelevant.

I've discussed this scenario once or twice before and I can say with 100 % honesty if I came home and found some guy balls deep in my Mrs I wouldn't feel anger in the slightest, I'd be taken aback and surprised sure but I'd instantly know whats up. I'd even go grab him a cold beer, get my sh!t in order and just be on my merry way.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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bullethead said:
It is kind of complicated. She cheated on me with him. I dumped her. He found out later that she was dating me and he dumped her. A few months later he hooks up with her again and dumps her again. So do I have an excuse to beat the crap out of him?
How im reading this is you kicked her to the side because she cheated on you with the guy, then He does the same once he finds out she was with you, So basically you guys both dumped her. If you dumped her then that should be it. He probably dated her again for some azz then kicked her to the side again.
 

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I'd blame myself over either of them.

1. We are in an age of unchecked hordom.
2. Hypergamy gonna hypergamy.
3. She obviously saw him as a shinier object, meaning I've dropped the ball.
4. Women don't swing to perceived lesser branches.
5. The guy? He's irrelevant.
I agree the guy is irrelevant. I agree with Atom Smasher, I blame the girl, where's her loyalty? I don't like the idea of blaming myself because why should I beat myself up just because the girl turned out to be a wh0re? Maybe I might blame myself for not being selective enough.

I like your attitude of using it to better yourself though.
 
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Only weak people succumb to temptation, your ex-girlfriend is a weak person, hence why she succumbed to this man's advances. My anger wouldn't be with this man, it would be with the girl, she betrayed you, not him.

Also I disagree that this is entirely your fault. That is what a lot of women say when they are caught cheating i.e. you didn't show me enough affection and whatever else. If she felt unhappy in the relationship she should have been strong enough to sit down like a mature and sensible person and discuss the issues she had instead of rushing out of the door and onto someone else's penis.

Just be glad you got shot of this cretin and ride forth towards better times. :up:
 

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bullethead said:
It is kind of complicated. She cheated on me with him. I dumped her. He found out later that she was dating me and he dumped her. A few months later he hooks up with her again and dumps her again. So do I have an excuse to beat the crap out of him?
Man, I been through exactly that as "the other man." She was staying at her mother's place, so it sure looked like she'd broken up with him.

Fight? Marquess of Queensbury rules? Pistols at dawn? Oh pleeze! Get over yourself. You dumped her. You don't want her. So isn't it stupid as fvck to fight for something you don't want?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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