bullethead
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I just want to beat the crap out of him. (this occurred a few months ago). Any advice?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
I have a friend who said the same thing but just like i told him and in my own experience... Is it the guys fault? I could understand if you knew the guy and he KNEW that was your GF yet still continued to try to get with her or if he was your friend, then that makes the case for breaking his arm and face but im assuming he didnt know you and you didnt know him so really, who is to blame? Your ex GF because she KNEW you were together, yet went on and let another dude get in with her. I agree with Atom Smasher, its much more her fault for cheating in the first place.bullethead said:I just want to beat the crap out of him. (this occurred a few months ago). Any advice?
It is kind of complicated. She cheated on me with him. I dumped her. He found out later that she was dating me and he dumped her. A few months later he hooks up with her again and dumps her again. So do I have an excuse to beat the crap out of him?In2theGame said:I have a friend who said the same thing but just like i told him and in my own experience... Is it the guys fault? I could understand if you knew the guy and he KNEW that was your GF yet still continued to try to get with her or if he was your friend, then that makes the case for breaking his arm and face but im assuming he didnt know you and you didnt know him so really, who is to blame? Your ex GF because she KNEW you were together, yet went on and let another dude get in with her. I agree with Atom Smasher, its much more her fault for cheating in the first place.
I'd blame myself over either of them.Atom Smasher said:I tend to blame the hor far more than the guy. Where was her loyalty to you?
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
How im reading this is you kicked her to the side because she cheated on you with the guy, then He does the same once he finds out she was with you, So basically you guys both dumped her. If you dumped her then that should be it. He probably dated her again for some azz then kicked her to the side again.bullethead said:It is kind of complicated. She cheated on me with him. I dumped her. He found out later that she was dating me and he dumped her. A few months later he hooks up with her again and dumps her again. So do I have an excuse to beat the crap out of him?
( . )( . ) said:I'd even go grab him a cold beer,.
I agree the guy is irrelevant. I agree with Atom Smasher, I blame the girl, where's her loyalty? I don't like the idea of blaming myself because why should I beat myself up just because the girl turned out to be a wh0re? Maybe I might blame myself for not being selective enough.( . )( . ) said:I'd blame myself over either of them.
1. We are in an age of unchecked hordom.
2. Hypergamy gonna hypergamy.
3. She obviously saw him as a shinier object, meaning I've dropped the ball.
4. Women don't swing to perceived lesser branches.
5. The guy? He's irrelevant.
Man, I been through exactly that as "the other man." She was staying at her mother's place, so it sure looked like she'd broken up with him.bullethead said:It is kind of complicated. She cheated on me with him. I dumped her. He found out later that she was dating me and he dumped her. A few months later he hooks up with her again and dumps her again. So do I have an excuse to beat the crap out of him?
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.