backbreaker
Master Don Juan
go see it.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
he wasn't a 5 star stud.. but closespeed dawg said:The story didn't exactly go down like the movie says it did. Let's just say that family was very interested in Ole Miss getting a 5 star stud offensive tackle.
Don't be fooled. I was fairly close to this situation and know the truth. Hollywood can do a number on the truth.
This film is blatant propoganda. The whole reason that family adopted him is because they were Ole Miss fans and saw a potential offensive lineman to add to the lineup. Had it been any other kid from the streets they wouldn't have lifted a finger.speed dawg said:The story didn't exactly go down like the movie says it did. Let's just say that family was very interested in Ole Miss getting a 5 star stud offensive tackle.
Don't be fooled. I was fairly close to this situation and know the truth. Hollywood can do a number on the truth.
Saw the movie for the 2nd time today. I know Hollywood likes to twist things around to make an interesting movie. I was thinking the same thing too. They address the issue in the movie when Michael is talking to the NCAA lady.Dust 2 Dust said:This film is blatant propoganda. The whole reason that family adopted him is because they were Ole Miss fans and saw a potential offensive lineman to add to the lineup. Had it been any other kid from the streets they wouldn't have lifted a finger.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Sean Tuohy was an Ole Miss grad (played hoops there), and "adopted" Oher (& later added him to his will) to ensure he went to Ole Miss. Tuohy is one of the best basketball players in Ole Miss history & wanted the "afflete" (who'd failed 2 grades & had a crackhead Momma) to play for the Rebels.Ken785 said:But why would they adopt him and do all these good things for him just so they can get him to go to the school they love? They didnt need to adopt him but they did.
Whether it was for their own self interests or not, would you not agree that they gave these kids a chance to reach their potential and do positive things they would never have gotten a chance to do had they not been helped?Dust 2 Dust said:Sean Tuohy was an Ole Miss grad (played hoops there), and "adopted" Oher (& later added him to his will) to ensure he went to Ole Miss. Tuohy is one of the best basketball players in Ole Miss history & wanted the "afflete" (who'd failed 2 grades & had a crackhead Momma) to play for the Rebels.
Oher also cheated on some of the famous "Mormon grade grab" online classes from BYU, and magically improved his high school GPA by 2 full points within a matter of weeks. It was a 0.6 early in high school.
FYI, there was a White HS football coach in Durham that took in a sumo from Richmond, VA (housed him and fed him for a couple years) and, of course, put him on his football team. The sumo's background was the typical story of a black single mammy with several kids that didn't really give a crap about motherhood.
I'm NOT cool at all with what the coach did (took resources away from his own family), but most of these stories have a "self-interest" aspect to it.
I agree. Even if it was a purely selfish reason, the fact remains that Michael got a chance that made his life better. He has a great career, money and is in the golden position TO HELP OTHER YOUNG MEN LIKE HIMSELF!Ken785 said:Whether it was for their own self interests or not, would you not agree that they gave these kids a chance to reach their potential and do positive things they would never have gotten a chance to do had they not been helped?
Actually, the word here is that he stayed with the family for 8 months, but he was already living with someone and enrolled in the same high school when they took him in. Doesn't make for such a good movie, does it? But it's not important to me since I'm not getting any money.WaterTiger said:Just saw the movie this afternoon and LOVED IT! (Thank you BackBreaker, for suggesting it!)
I agree. Even if it was a purely selfish reason, the fact remains that Michael got a chance that made his life better. He has a great career, money and is in the golden position TO HELP OTHER YOUNG MEN LIKE HIMSELF!
You think his life would have been better without the Touhys? Better staying in the slums with no education, no prospects and no hope?
If this is the result of "selfish behavior" then we should ALL be so selfish! If a child shows strong potential, then encourage it! Nurture it! We'll all be better for it!
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
speed dawg said:Now we're getting somewhere.
Sean Touhy was and is a HUGE Ole Miss donor. They throw around money like crazy for football players. Old school mentality that got left in the 60's along with their alleged national titles. I mean, look at them now, the KKK is all over their campus.
If you want to go out and adopt black guys from the hood, go do it. If this guy hadn't been a Parade All-American, the Touhy's would have been nowhere to be found. And yeah, I'm sure Mrs. Touhy just strutted right into Orange Mound and said, "You threatened my son, you threaten me" to a bunch of Memphis gang bangers. They'd have jacked her ass up in some baaaaad ways and she'd have turned up on the First 48. I know, I lived in Memphis and the inner city is one of the most dangerous in the country.
speed dawg said:Now we're getting somewhere.
Sean Touhy was and is a HUGE Ole Miss donor. They throw around money like crazy for football players. Old school mentality that got left in the 60's along with their alleged national titles. I mean, look at them now, the KKK is all over their campus.
If you want to go out and adopt black guys from the hood, go do it. If this guy hadn't been a Parade All-American, the Touhy's would have been nowhere to be found. And yeah, I'm sure Mrs. Touhy just strutted right into Orange Mound and said, "You threatened my son, you threaten me" to a bunch of Memphis gang bangers. They'd have jacked her ass up in some baaaaad ways and she'd have turned up on the First 48. I know, I lived in Memphis and the inner city is one of the most dangerous in the country.
I'd feel insulted if it came from someone who didn't come from Little Rock.....backbreaker said:yeah I grew up in little rock, and out of all the places I've been.. France, london, australia... I have never and never will go to memphis. hell hole.
there are two cities on earth that I would rather cut my **** off than visit.. memphis and harrison arkansas.
:box:Da Realist said:I'd feel insulted if it came from someone who didn't come from Little Rock.....