backbreaker
Master Don Juan
go see it.
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
he wasn't a 5 star stud.. but closespeed dawg said:The story didn't exactly go down like the movie says it did. Let's just say that family was very interested in Ole Miss getting a 5 star stud offensive tackle.
Don't be fooled. I was fairly close to this situation and know the truth. Hollywood can do a number on the truth.
This film is blatant propoganda. The whole reason that family adopted him is because they were Ole Miss fans and saw a potential offensive lineman to add to the lineup. Had it been any other kid from the streets they wouldn't have lifted a finger.speed dawg said:The story didn't exactly go down like the movie says it did. Let's just say that family was very interested in Ole Miss getting a 5 star stud offensive tackle.
Don't be fooled. I was fairly close to this situation and know the truth. Hollywood can do a number on the truth.
Saw the movie for the 2nd time today. I know Hollywood likes to twist things around to make an interesting movie. I was thinking the same thing too. They address the issue in the movie when Michael is talking to the NCAA lady.Dust 2 Dust said:This film is blatant propoganda. The whole reason that family adopted him is because they were Ole Miss fans and saw a potential offensive lineman to add to the lineup. Had it been any other kid from the streets they wouldn't have lifted a finger.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Sean Tuohy was an Ole Miss grad (played hoops there), and "adopted" Oher (& later added him to his will) to ensure he went to Ole Miss. Tuohy is one of the best basketball players in Ole Miss history & wanted the "afflete" (who'd failed 2 grades & had a crackhead Momma) to play for the Rebels.Ken785 said:But why would they adopt him and do all these good things for him just so they can get him to go to the school they love? They didnt need to adopt him but they did.
Whether it was for their own self interests or not, would you not agree that they gave these kids a chance to reach their potential and do positive things they would never have gotten a chance to do had they not been helped?Dust 2 Dust said:Sean Tuohy was an Ole Miss grad (played hoops there), and "adopted" Oher (& later added him to his will) to ensure he went to Ole Miss. Tuohy is one of the best basketball players in Ole Miss history & wanted the "afflete" (who'd failed 2 grades & had a crackhead Momma) to play for the Rebels.
Oher also cheated on some of the famous "Mormon grade grab" online classes from BYU, and magically improved his high school GPA by 2 full points within a matter of weeks. It was a 0.6 early in high school.
FYI, there was a White HS football coach in Durham that took in a sumo from Richmond, VA (housed him and fed him for a couple years) and, of course, put him on his football team. The sumo's background was the typical story of a black single mammy with several kids that didn't really give a crap about motherhood.
I'm NOT cool at all with what the coach did (took resources away from his own family), but most of these stories have a "self-interest" aspect to it.
I agree. Even if it was a purely selfish reason, the fact remains that Michael got a chance that made his life better. He has a great career, money and is in the golden position TO HELP OTHER YOUNG MEN LIKE HIMSELF!Ken785 said:Whether it was for their own self interests or not, would you not agree that they gave these kids a chance to reach their potential and do positive things they would never have gotten a chance to do had they not been helped?
Actually, the word here is that he stayed with the family for 8 months, but he was already living with someone and enrolled in the same high school when they took him in. Doesn't make for such a good movie, does it? But it's not important to me since I'm not getting any money.WaterTiger said:Just saw the movie this afternoon and LOVED IT! (Thank you BackBreaker, for suggesting it!)
I agree. Even if it was a purely selfish reason, the fact remains that Michael got a chance that made his life better. He has a great career, money and is in the golden position TO HELP OTHER YOUNG MEN LIKE HIMSELF!
You think his life would have been better without the Touhys? Better staying in the slums with no education, no prospects and no hope?
If this is the result of "selfish behavior" then we should ALL be so selfish! If a child shows strong potential, then encourage it! Nurture it! We'll all be better for it!
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
speed dawg said:Now we're getting somewhere.
Sean Touhy was and is a HUGE Ole Miss donor. They throw around money like crazy for football players. Old school mentality that got left in the 60's along with their alleged national titles. I mean, look at them now, the KKK is all over their campus.
If you want to go out and adopt black guys from the hood, go do it. If this guy hadn't been a Parade All-American, the Touhy's would have been nowhere to be found. And yeah, I'm sure Mrs. Touhy just strutted right into Orange Mound and said, "You threatened my son, you threaten me" to a bunch of Memphis gang bangers. They'd have jacked her ass up in some baaaaad ways and she'd have turned up on the First 48. I know, I lived in Memphis and the inner city is one of the most dangerous in the country.
speed dawg said:Now we're getting somewhere.
Sean Touhy was and is a HUGE Ole Miss donor. They throw around money like crazy for football players. Old school mentality that got left in the 60's along with their alleged national titles. I mean, look at them now, the KKK is all over their campus.
If you want to go out and adopt black guys from the hood, go do it. If this guy hadn't been a Parade All-American, the Touhy's would have been nowhere to be found. And yeah, I'm sure Mrs. Touhy just strutted right into Orange Mound and said, "You threatened my son, you threaten me" to a bunch of Memphis gang bangers. They'd have jacked her ass up in some baaaaad ways and she'd have turned up on the First 48. I know, I lived in Memphis and the inner city is one of the most dangerous in the country.
I'd feel insulted if it came from someone who didn't come from Little Rock.....backbreaker said:yeah I grew up in little rock, and out of all the places I've been.. France, london, australia... I have never and never will go to memphis. hell hole.
there are two cities on earth that I would rather cut my **** off than visit.. memphis and harrison arkansas.
:box:Da Realist said:I'd feel insulted if it came from someone who didn't come from Little Rock.....