Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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madhatter

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someone offered to set me up on a blind date. i had an absolutely awful time on my first and only blind date. basically i went with a group to a club and i couldn't shake off this girl o talk to other girls. really aggravating. plus she wasn't pretty at all, so i didn't want to be seen with her. :)

my female coworker says she's cute, but i have learned to only value judgments about attractiveness from guys who are talking about girls.

do you guys request a picture before you call up a girl to take her out?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I only accept blind dates from people who I'm absolutely know my taste, and there is only person who knows, that's my brother. He and I have the same taste so we always know whether or not we'll be into a girl when setting each other up.

In the past I accepted blind dates set up by my best female friend. The girl she introd me to were always nice, and kinda cute, (7's), but the never really did it for me. My friend would always be like, "Ohhhh I know this really cute girl that you'll love!". Eh, it was always dissapointing. So yeah, pictures I now insist on.
 

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Discussion.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Originally posted by Soma
...In the past I accepted blind dates set up by my best female friend. The girl she introd me to were always nice, and kinda cute, (7's), but the never really did it for me. My friend would always be like, "Ohhhh I know this really cute girl that you'll love!". Eh, it was always dissapointing. So yeah, pictures I now insist on.
This is what happens most of the time, at least with people that really don't know your particular taste. They think that the two of you would hit it off only for one reason: YOU'RE BOTH SINGLE, and nothing else. That sucks big time...
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Giovanni Casanova

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Just say no to blind dates.
 

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oh shiite i have a blind date this weekend and my friend (girl) who hooked it up says she's scute. she sounded cute on the phone but we'll see this weekend; hope mine doesn't turn out like yours...sorry to hear you night sucked.
 

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she sounded cute on the phone but we'll see this weekend
Yeah ^ Great way to tell. Just be sure to listen for that hourglass shaped figure as you talk to her. :p
 

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Blind dates are fun. Its like gambling.
 

Giovanni Casanova

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Originally posted by diplomatic_lie
Blind dates are fun. Its like gambling.
Oh yeah? Tell that to the hunchback Hell-Beast that I got set up with, Mister It's-Fun-It's-Like-Gambling.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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madhatter

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the one i was set up with has a smoking hot sister. i figured she would at least look as hot as her sister. not a chance!!
 

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I'm with casanova, blind dates are a big negative.
 
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