"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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blew it tonight?

Venom01

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I went on a date to dave and busters and had a great time with this chick. It came to the end of the night (our first date) and she was in my car, and she knew i had to call it a night. she just sat there for like 20 mins and talked and fiddled with her keys.

I kinda wanted to play hard to get, so im waiting until the second date to initiate something. You think this was the right move? or should i have have done it on the first.I know the key sign was the perfect tell tale sign that she wanted it.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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john paul

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for the most part guys dont play hard to get. You set up a date with her, acting like you may not be interested just confuses them.

Right now shes second guessing herself about you. He either doesnt like me, is gay, or not man enough to make a move.

but no biggie. If she had a good time on the date she will defenently look for one or two more dates, to see what comes from it. You can make your move then. I just usually dont wait till the second date if im seeing good signals.
 

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Venom01 said:
I went on a date to dave and busters and had a great time with this chick. It came to the end of the night (our first date) and she was in my car, and she knew i had to call it a night. she just sat there for like 20 mins and talked and fiddled with her keys.

I kinda wanted to play hard to get, so im waiting until the second date to initiate something. You think this was the right move? or should i have have done it on the first.I know the key sign was the perfect tell tale sign that she wanted it.
You should have teased her. Even if she's interested, you can only play hard to get if she's thinking about you as a puzzle, that way she'll want to figure you out. Kiss her and pull her away, there are numerous things that you could've done. Try it out next time.

-drtk
 

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john paul said:
for the most part guys dont play hard to get. You set up a date with her, acting like you may not be interested just confuses them.

Right now shes second guessing herself about you. He either doesnt like me, is gay, or not man enough to make a move.

but no biggie. If she had a good time on the date she will defenently look for one or two more dates, to see what comes from it. You can make your move then. I just usually dont wait till the second date if im seeing good signals.
100% agree.
 

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She played with her keys for 20 mins? You should of kissed her, idiot!

Hopefully she likes you enough to where it wont matter. But that was a clear sign of.. OK, KISS ME ALREADY! No need to play games. You got the date didn't you? She's interested.. now move in for the kill buddy.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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