"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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blew it tonight?

Venom01

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I went on a date to dave and busters and had a great time with this chick. It came to the end of the night (our first date) and she was in my car, and she knew i had to call it a night. she just sat there for like 20 mins and talked and fiddled with her keys.

I kinda wanted to play hard to get, so im waiting until the second date to initiate something. You think this was the right move? or should i have have done it on the first.I know the key sign was the perfect tell tale sign that she wanted it.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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john paul

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for the most part guys dont play hard to get. You set up a date with her, acting like you may not be interested just confuses them.

Right now shes second guessing herself about you. He either doesnt like me, is gay, or not man enough to make a move.

but no biggie. If she had a good time on the date she will defenently look for one or two more dates, to see what comes from it. You can make your move then. I just usually dont wait till the second date if im seeing good signals.
 

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Venom01 said:
I went on a date to dave and busters and had a great time with this chick. It came to the end of the night (our first date) and she was in my car, and she knew i had to call it a night. she just sat there for like 20 mins and talked and fiddled with her keys.

I kinda wanted to play hard to get, so im waiting until the second date to initiate something. You think this was the right move? or should i have have done it on the first.I know the key sign was the perfect tell tale sign that she wanted it.
You should have teased her. Even if she's interested, you can only play hard to get if she's thinking about you as a puzzle, that way she'll want to figure you out. Kiss her and pull her away, there are numerous things that you could've done. Try it out next time.

-drtk
 

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john paul said:
for the most part guys dont play hard to get. You set up a date with her, acting like you may not be interested just confuses them.

Right now shes second guessing herself about you. He either doesnt like me, is gay, or not man enough to make a move.

but no biggie. If she had a good time on the date she will defenently look for one or two more dates, to see what comes from it. You can make your move then. I just usually dont wait till the second date if im seeing good signals.
100% agree.
 

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She played with her keys for 20 mins? You should of kissed her, idiot!

Hopefully she likes you enough to where it wont matter. But that was a clear sign of.. OK, KISS ME ALREADY! No need to play games. You got the date didn't you? She's interested.. now move in for the kill buddy.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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