"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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blew it tonight?

Venom01

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I went on a date to dave and busters and had a great time with this chick. It came to the end of the night (our first date) and she was in my car, and she knew i had to call it a night. she just sat there for like 20 mins and talked and fiddled with her keys.

I kinda wanted to play hard to get, so im waiting until the second date to initiate something. You think this was the right move? or should i have have done it on the first.I know the key sign was the perfect tell tale sign that she wanted it.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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john paul

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for the most part guys dont play hard to get. You set up a date with her, acting like you may not be interested just confuses them.

Right now shes second guessing herself about you. He either doesnt like me, is gay, or not man enough to make a move.

but no biggie. If she had a good time on the date she will defenently look for one or two more dates, to see what comes from it. You can make your move then. I just usually dont wait till the second date if im seeing good signals.
 

drtk

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Venom01 said:
I went on a date to dave and busters and had a great time with this chick. It came to the end of the night (our first date) and she was in my car, and she knew i had to call it a night. she just sat there for like 20 mins and talked and fiddled with her keys.

I kinda wanted to play hard to get, so im waiting until the second date to initiate something. You think this was the right move? or should i have have done it on the first.I know the key sign was the perfect tell tale sign that she wanted it.
You should have teased her. Even if she's interested, you can only play hard to get if she's thinking about you as a puzzle, that way she'll want to figure you out. Kiss her and pull her away, there are numerous things that you could've done. Try it out next time.

-drtk
 

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john paul said:
for the most part guys dont play hard to get. You set up a date with her, acting like you may not be interested just confuses them.

Right now shes second guessing herself about you. He either doesnt like me, is gay, or not man enough to make a move.

but no biggie. If she had a good time on the date she will defenently look for one or two more dates, to see what comes from it. You can make your move then. I just usually dont wait till the second date if im seeing good signals.
100% agree.
 

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She played with her keys for 20 mins? You should of kissed her, idiot!

Hopefully she likes you enough to where it wont matter. But that was a clear sign of.. OK, KISS ME ALREADY! No need to play games. You got the date didn't you? She's interested.. now move in for the kill buddy.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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