"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Bleh. Mental block.

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I can talk. I can charm. I'm attractive. I'm confident. I can isolate. I've made out before... But for some reason I get this mental block that keeps me from kissing anyone who I actually know. Usually its something like "what if she doesn't want to kiss, and this ruins everything/makes things awkward"...advice on tackling this?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Next time it happens and you are thinking that simply reframe it and change your thinking to "she's waiting there hoping I'll kiss her, she'll be dissapointed if I don't" or something similar.
 

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I appreciate the advice, and like it. But I think it's more of a concern with the consequences than anything.
 

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What consequences? You don't actually know what is going to happen afterwards. It's all in you head, just your imagination. Reframe that too. What's the worst that can happen? A little awkwardness for a day?

Are you willing to move past the fear or are you just going to accept that you aren't going to kiss anyone you know? You just gotta take risks sometimes.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

Read more...

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That is EXACTLY what i needed to hear. Worst that can happen is a bit of awkwardness...boo hoo. It's a compliment more than anything, and perfectly natural for a 17 year old.

Thank you.
 
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