"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Bleh. Mental block.

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I can talk. I can charm. I'm attractive. I'm confident. I can isolate. I've made out before... But for some reason I get this mental block that keeps me from kissing anyone who I actually know. Usually its something like "what if she doesn't want to kiss, and this ruins everything/makes things awkward"...advice on tackling this?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Next time it happens and you are thinking that simply reframe it and change your thinking to "she's waiting there hoping I'll kiss her, she'll be dissapointed if I don't" or something similar.
 

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I appreciate the advice, and like it. But I think it's more of a concern with the consequences than anything.
 

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What consequences? You don't actually know what is going to happen afterwards. It's all in you head, just your imagination. Reframe that too. What's the worst that can happen? A little awkwardness for a day?

Are you willing to move past the fear or are you just going to accept that you aren't going to kiss anyone you know? You just gotta take risks sometimes.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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That is EXACTLY what i needed to hear. Worst that can happen is a bit of awkwardness...boo hoo. It's a compliment more than anything, and perfectly natural for a 17 year old.

Thank you.
 
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