"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Bleh. Mental block.

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I can talk. I can charm. I'm attractive. I'm confident. I can isolate. I've made out before... But for some reason I get this mental block that keeps me from kissing anyone who I actually know. Usually its something like "what if she doesn't want to kiss, and this ruins everything/makes things awkward"...advice on tackling this?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Next time it happens and you are thinking that simply reframe it and change your thinking to "she's waiting there hoping I'll kiss her, she'll be dissapointed if I don't" or something similar.
 
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I appreciate the advice, and like it. But I think it's more of a concern with the consequences than anything.
 
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What consequences? You don't actually know what is going to happen afterwards. It's all in you head, just your imagination. Reframe that too. What's the worst that can happen? A little awkwardness for a day?

Are you willing to move past the fear or are you just going to accept that you aren't going to kiss anyone you know? You just gotta take risks sometimes.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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That is EXACTLY what i needed to hear. Worst that can happen is a bit of awkwardness...boo hoo. It's a compliment more than anything, and perfectly natural for a 17 year old.

Thank you.
 
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