"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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blazing sizing help anyone?

warrior1

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i bought a blazer online from Banana Republic, a 40R that is too big for me and now i have to sell it back b/c i ripped the tags off. I am 5'8 and 155lbs and would like to know based on my height and weight, what is the right size for me. I know i can easily do this by going to a store and do this but i don't have time this week.

Is 38R, 38S or maybe 40S the right size for me?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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what's your waist size?

normally, suits and blazers tend to have a 6 inch drop in sizing. for example, if you are 40R in the chest, that means you are most likely 34 in the waist. now, there are exceptions to this for example. if you work out a lot and have an overdeveloped torso but a small waist, you could easily be a 10, or 12 inch drop. also, some people who are really fat tend to have a 3 inch drop between chest and waist.

bottom line is, if you are not a bodybuilder, and are not a fat ass, your jacket size is 6 inches higher then your waist size.

however, based on your height, im not sure if you are a short or a regular cut since i don't know your arm outseam. when you buy dress shirts, do you normally buy the ones with a 32-33 outseam, or the ones with a 34-35 outseam? if it's 32-33, go for the short fitting jacket. if you are 34-35 go for the regular. if you don't know what your arm length is, go for the regular and get the sleeves shortened if need be.

if i were you, i'd go to the nearest men's warehouse sometime in the future (or moores if you live in canada), and get all your measurements taken by a suit specialist, and keep the card in your wallet (rather then ordering random sizes).
 

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hi thx a lot. My waist size is 32. Dress shirts i wear a medium, 15.5 Not sure if they are 32-33 or 34-35 outseem. Some poster in another forum tells me Regular or R like 40R is for people 5-7 to 6-0, so i should stick to regular and not small. I never heard of the 6 in drop in size but it does sound real accurate.

I am not fat, probably more on the skinny to the regular size.
 

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At Banana you probably wear a 38S. I was a suiting specialist at BR for awhile and the sizing is all wonky - I'm not a 38 anywhere else but there. I'm 6' and 160 lbs and wear a 38R.

If you're set on BR you should go into a shop and check them out. Make sure you find the best dressed guy in the store to help you - in my experience they're the ones who know how a jacket should fit. Very few women know anything about men's clothes.

MoM, in general you might be right about the 6" drop, but mine is 7-9" and I'm nowhere near a bodybuilder. Most of the skinnier guys I fitted were more of a 7-8" drop.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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