"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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BJJ/Boxing killing me

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I've started BJJ again, and it's pretty f*cking intense.

I train three times a week minimum, usually for about 2-2.5 hours, at a Carlson Gracie Academy.

Today I fought just four 5-minute bouts, but I felt like I was going to die at the last one.

I'm 160, but pretty f*cking strong, and I went against this other white belt who's a cut and ripped guy probably weighing around 180. Strong f*ck.

We brawled it out for a few minutes, he almost submitted me in the rear naked, but I finally escaped, then he got me in the triangle choke the last 10 seconds.

I'm pissed I had to tap, but I was so f*cking tired. He was my last opponent, and I was already tired, and he just had so much more strength.

Anyway, I need some tips for recovery and staying strong.

I train BJJ three times a week, and only work out twice per week for about 45 minutes, focusing only on chest, legs, back, shoulders.

I'm losing all fat right now though and feeling like I'm dropping weight with all this cardio.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Since jerking off is obviously a major factor here, I'm going to estimate about 2-3 times per day.

I usually f*ck my gf at least once per day (she's not around now).

I'm 19.
 

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I need to get this handled too. I bet u tapped cos you gassed out. That happens to me because i simply have zero energy left and i am submitted with ****ty submissions cos i dont attempt any defense because im tottaly fecked!.

my routine is like urs too.

mon: BJJ - gi, 2 hours
tue: BJJ - no gi, 1.5 hours
wed: BJJ - gi, 2 hours
thurs: weights ( arms + back ) morning , kick boxing in evening, 2 hours
fri: weights ( chest + shoulders + tris )
sat: weights ( legs ) and option of BJJ no gi
sun: well deserved rest.


i need to get my cardio WAAAY up. How can i do it?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Warboss Alex said:
post your diet.
It definately WAS my diet.

Now I'm back to eating at least 3000 calories per day, not the measly 2000 I was, THEN training like an animal and wondering why I felt like I was falling to pieces!
 

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If you take a week off bjj, and still lift/eat alot, you'll gain 3-4 pounds. The you'll lose around 2-3 when you go back.

I can still gain about a pound a month while doing bjj.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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