"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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BJJ/Boxing killing me

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I've started BJJ again, and it's pretty f*cking intense.

I train three times a week minimum, usually for about 2-2.5 hours, at a Carlson Gracie Academy.

Today I fought just four 5-minute bouts, but I felt like I was going to die at the last one.

I'm 160, but pretty f*cking strong, and I went against this other white belt who's a cut and ripped guy probably weighing around 180. Strong f*ck.

We brawled it out for a few minutes, he almost submitted me in the rear naked, but I finally escaped, then he got me in the triangle choke the last 10 seconds.

I'm pissed I had to tap, but I was so f*cking tired. He was my last opponent, and I was already tired, and he just had so much more strength.

Anyway, I need some tips for recovery and staying strong.

I train BJJ three times a week, and only work out twice per week for about 45 minutes, focusing only on chest, legs, back, shoulders.

I'm losing all fat right now though and feeling like I'm dropping weight with all this cardio.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Since jerking off is obviously a major factor here, I'm going to estimate about 2-3 times per day.

I usually f*ck my gf at least once per day (she's not around now).

I'm 19.
 

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I need to get this handled too. I bet u tapped cos you gassed out. That happens to me because i simply have zero energy left and i am submitted with ****ty submissions cos i dont attempt any defense because im tottaly fecked!.

my routine is like urs too.

mon: BJJ - gi, 2 hours
tue: BJJ - no gi, 1.5 hours
wed: BJJ - gi, 2 hours
thurs: weights ( arms + back ) morning , kick boxing in evening, 2 hours
fri: weights ( chest + shoulders + tris )
sat: weights ( legs ) and option of BJJ no gi
sun: well deserved rest.


i need to get my cardio WAAAY up. How can i do it?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Warboss Alex said:
post your diet.
It definately WAS my diet.

Now I'm back to eating at least 3000 calories per day, not the measly 2000 I was, THEN training like an animal and wondering why I felt like I was falling to pieces!
 

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If you take a week off bjj, and still lift/eat alot, you'll gain 3-4 pounds. The you'll lose around 2-3 when you go back.

I can still gain about a pound a month while doing bjj.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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