Bit of a situation.

[Grounded eagle]

Long time member returning here. So I’m in a bit of a situation here, and I thought I’d run it past you guys, hopefully get an informed opinion on how I should handle it.

So I met this girl. A real nice girl. Checks all the boxes. Humble,family oriented, and hot in the specific way that appeals to me. In short, girlfriend material, not a common potential lay. So a couple of weeks ago, I got into a situation with a girl who has considerable proximity with her friend group. I was banging her in public at some party, and long story short, we got arrested. Spent the night in jail.

I am concerned that this might have reached the potential girlfriend, and I am concerned that it might derail my efforts with her.

I am not really concerned about people knowing what happened, I am mainly concerned that it will hamper my efforts with said nice girl.

What are your thoughts? Should I play it cool and proceed like nothing’s going on? Or should I preempt the whole thing and tell her?(perhaps it would be better if she heard it from me)

I should also probably mention that this all went down before me and her ever formally met or spoke,but I’d seen her around frequently.

 

[Clockwerk50]

If I were in your shoes, I wouldn’t preemptively bring it up or explain myself over something that happened before you two even formally met.

You’re giving this incident more importance than it may actually have. If she hasn’t heard about it, there’s no reason to introduce it yourself. If she has, let her decide whether it’s worth asking you about.

Sometimes drawing attention to something only gives it more significance than it deserves. Don’t pick at a scab that might otherwise heal on its own.

 

[Plinco]

Don't feel or act guilty about it because you will make yourself more guilty in her mind then you need to be. Be completely honest about it. It's something that happened some time ago and you've moved on. If she ever brings it up in the future, just say "yeah that happened x years ago but I'm with you now."

 

[Grounded eagle]

If I were in your shoes, I wouldn’t preemptively bring it up or explain myself over something that happened before you two even formally met.

You’re giving this incident more importance than it may actually have. If she hasn’t heard about it, there’s no reason to introduce it yourself. If she has, let her decide whether it’s worth asking you about.

Sometimes drawing attention to something only gives it more significance than it deserves. Don’t pick at a scab that might otherwise heal on its own.

I hear you, however, I think that there is a significant chance that she knows or has heard, and very recently at that. I suspect so because someone asked someone I know about it.

And things were going quite well with me and her.

Don't feel or act guilty about it because you will make yourself more guilty in her mind then you need to be. Be completely honest about it. It's something that happened some time ago and you've moved on. If she ever brings it up in the future, just say "yeah that happened x years ago but I'm with you now."

I don’t feel guilty about it really,just concerned that it might affect my plans. And it didn’t happen years ago,it happened about three weeks ago.

 

[Sega Genesis]

I was banging her in public at some party, and long story short, we got arrested. Spent the night in jail

Hey @Grounded eagle , I am female and your b***ing another girl before you met me would not bother me.

For me and perhaps her, it would depend on what it was you got arrested for.

Do you feel comfortable sharing that?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Hey @Grounded eagle , I am female and your b***ing another girl before you met me would not bother me.

For me and perhaps her, it would depend on what it was you got arrested for.

Do you feel comfortable sharing that?

Public indecency I am guessing?

 

[Grounded eagle]

Hey @Grounded eagle , I am female and your b***ing another girl before you met me would not bother me.

For me and perhaps her, it would depend on what it was you got arrested for.

Do you feel comfortable sharing that?

“Public nuisance.”
It was the doing it in public that I got arrested for.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

“Public nuisance.”
It was the doing it in public that I got arrested for.

Yup, similar concept...they have different terms in different places for it.

Hopefully you are least busted a bit to make it worth it

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

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My advice; remain single and you won't have to answer to NO ONE.