@sazc ,
Making false rape/s€xual assault accusations and why most/some women think it's true - from a man's perspective.
We've been bombarded by news on a daily basis from #metoo and up until now on the nomination of a US supreme court nominee.
More and more men around the globe are thinking along these lines;
I don't think these women are victims. I think they consented.
Yes, these women have had negative sexual experiences, can't deny that fact. Sometimes profoundly negative. But the fact that the sexual experience was
negative doesn’t mean it was
assault.
What separates a sexual experience from sexual violence ?
It is
consent.
Consent has nothing to do with feelings. Women can choose not to consent to experiences that make them feel good and they can also consent to experiences that make them feel bad.
Some women who claim assault actually consented. Maybe they didn’t
want to consent, or they felt
pressured 2 consent, or they
regretted consenting, but they did.
Every woman has had a sexual encounter that they consented to for the wrong reasons and ended up regretting afterward, to some degree or another, even you
@sazc .
But no matter how much a woman regrets it, it is not rape or s€xual assault.
Women who call this s€xual assault are confusing their negative feelings with lack of consent.
Wherever the situational pressure comes from, it’s
a woman's responsibility to say “I don’t want this anymore.” If a woman don’t communicate lack of consent and in fact, communicate consent by allowing the interaction to continue, then a woman is not being s€xually assaulted no matter how unpleasant the interaction is.
Those women that's in the news wouldn’t have gone through those negative sexual interactions if they stood up for themselves and clearly communicated what they want or didn’t want,
when they wanted it or didn’t want it. If they had the courage to say “no,” at the time it was happening, these things wouldn’t have happened to them.
Or more simply put, if those women had said NO, those interactions wouldn’t have happened.
So it's not assault but a skewed view based on regret, on feelings and on lack of ownership.