RangerMIke
Master Don Juan
Spent last night listen to a buddy who is going through a marriage breakup. I've had these conversations with many guy friends over the years while they polished off whatever bottle of what they were drinking (last night it was gin). A majority of these break-ups all boils down to two things... and yes, it relates to money.
If you are in a relationship with a chick where you make more money, you are headed for trouble if you do not control the spending. So many guys who head towards break-ups turn their paychecks over to their women and let her do whatever the fvck she wants. The reason is that chicks think the SPENDING of money is equal to MAKING money. If you do not control the finances she will equate spending time, spending money, as THE SAME as spending time, making money. Give her some discipline, put her on a budget, and whatever you do NEVER EVER allow her to dictate to you want YOU spend your money on. Pay your bills and take care of your children but NEVER let her deny you money to do things you like. The 1st law of Chick finance (like nature abhors a vacuum) is that they will spend whatever the fvck they have. They are good at stretching a dollar, if they have the patience and desire to spend HOURS clipping coupons, and searching for deals. Chicks LOVE shopping, make her use these skills to the advantage of the household.... make her EARN the right to brag about her contribution. If she controls all the spending she will have no respect for you.
The second thing... If she makes more money than you there is a HIGH probability that no matter what you do you are fvcked. If you want to keep her, you better try and make more money.
Yea I know... it's not fair. I think relationships are a bad deal for men and they should stay away from them, but a common denominator of all the times over the last 20 years I've listened to the same run down of the break ups these issues IMO are the root cause.
If you are in a relationship with a chick where you make more money, you are headed for trouble if you do not control the spending. So many guys who head towards break-ups turn their paychecks over to their women and let her do whatever the fvck she wants. The reason is that chicks think the SPENDING of money is equal to MAKING money. If you do not control the finances she will equate spending time, spending money, as THE SAME as spending time, making money. Give her some discipline, put her on a budget, and whatever you do NEVER EVER allow her to dictate to you want YOU spend your money on. Pay your bills and take care of your children but NEVER let her deny you money to do things you like. The 1st law of Chick finance (like nature abhors a vacuum) is that they will spend whatever the fvck they have. They are good at stretching a dollar, if they have the patience and desire to spend HOURS clipping coupons, and searching for deals. Chicks LOVE shopping, make her use these skills to the advantage of the household.... make her EARN the right to brag about her contribution. If she controls all the spending she will have no respect for you.
The second thing... If she makes more money than you there is a HIGH probability that no matter what you do you are fvcked. If you want to keep her, you better try and make more money.
Yea I know... it's not fair. I think relationships are a bad deal for men and they should stay away from them, but a common denominator of all the times over the last 20 years I've listened to the same run down of the break ups these issues IMO are the root cause.