"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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As opposed to "small" talk...

I went down town today. I realized my personality is really just not made to go out and meet strangers. I'm done trying to change myself. But the point of this post is a conversation two other people had next to me. An older guy and an older girl who was sitting by herself. The girl actually tried to make conversation with me before the guy talked to her, asking what I was drinking (cranberry juice), but I just gave her a 1 word answer because she was old and not hot.

The guy was telling her how he was a single father, saving money for retirement when his kids finally leave the house in a few years. He told her he had a vasectomy. He asked her if she had any kids (she didn't), or if she was ever married (no). They briefly talked about their jobs. He asked for her number and got it.

I suppose this is "big talk" as oppose to the pu$$y footing around "small talk" that leads nowhere.

Keep in mind these were older people.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Some practice would do you good as you are unable to catch women. You can just buy them, but you don't charm them. Start from little things, go onto big things.

And don't forget to insult me somehow in the reply LOL
 

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As opposed to "small" talk...

I went down town today. I realized my personality is really just not made to go out and meet strangers. I'm done trying to change myself. But the point of this post is a conversation two other people had next to me. An older guy and an older girl who was sitting by herself. The girl actually tried to make conversation with me before the guy talked to her, asking what I was drinking (cranberry juice), but I just gave her a 1 word answer because she was old and not hot.

The guy was telling her how he was a single father, saving money for retirement when his kids finally leave the house in a few years. He told her he had a vasectomy. He asked her if she had any kids (she didn't), or if she was ever married (no). They briefly talked about their jobs. He asked for her number and got it.

I suppose this is "big talk" as oppose to the pu$$y footing around "small talk" that leads nowhere.

Keep in mind these were older people.
I think your personality is perfect match for girls from tinder
 

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As opposed to "small" talk...

I went down town today. I realized my personality is really just not made to go out and meet strangers. I'm done trying to change myself. But the point of this post is a conversation two other people had next to me. An older guy and an older girl who was sitting by herself. The girl actually tried to make conversation with me before the guy talked to her, asking what I was drinking (cranberry juice), but I just gave her a 1 word answer because she was old and not hot.

The guy was telling her how he was a single father, saving money for retirement when his kids finally leave the house in a few years. He told her he had a vasectomy. He asked her if she had any kids (she didn't), or if she was ever married (no). They briefly talked about their jobs. He asked for her number and got it.

I suppose this is "big talk" as oppose to the pu$$y footing around "small talk" that leads nowhere.

Keep in mind these were older people.
It was still small talk.
I imagine you as a total creeper in these places where you overhear these conversations. Like someone trying to peek over the booth behind you to better eavesdrop on people's conversation. It's very creepy and borderline psychotic.
 
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It was still small talk.
I imagine you as a total creeper in these places where you overhear these conversations. Like someone trying to peek over the booth behind you to better eavesdrop on people's conversation. It's very creepy and borderline psychotic.
No, they're sitting 2 feet away from me at the bar. I couldn't not hear them if I tried.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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It was still small talk.
I imagine you as a total creeper in these places where you overhear these conversations. Like someone trying to peek over the booth behind you to better eavesdrop on people's conversation. It's very creepy and borderline psychotic.
If that's small talk, then what's big talk?
 
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Some practice would do you good as you are unable to catch women. You can just buy them, but you don't charm them. Start from little things, go onto big things.

And don't forget to insult me somehow in the reply LOL
What is your definition of little things and big things?
 

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What is your definition of little things and big things?
Little things in this case, for you, would be responding to some conversation another person started with you.

Big things would be you handling women with minimal emotional involvement, enough to enjoy them, but not enough for to be destroyed by them. Big thing would be called a woman making a painting for you, an artwork, a woman coming to have sex and a good time with you even if her brain, her friends and her relatives all advise her against it.

You will notice big things when and if they come. You will feel them.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Little things in this case, for you, would be responding to some conversation another person started with you.

Big things would be you handling women with minimal emotional involvement, enough to enjoy them, but not enough for to be destroyed by them. Big thing would be called a woman making a painting for you, an artwork, a woman coming to have sex and a good time with you even if her brain, her friends and her relatives all advise her against it.

You will notice big things when and if they come. You will feel them.
I did respond to the conversation. I said "cranberry juice."
 
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