"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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better to not call and just retry in person?

big weezy

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i been thinking lately that cos my pick up isn't perfect i get into incidents where i'd only rate myself 6/10 in regards to the actual pick up attempt.. meaning that she prob is slightly interested/indifferent.

if i call i'm pretty sure she won't pick up, if i text she'll either respond uninterestedly or not respond at all.

given we live both in the same area and her local starbucks is the 1 down the road from mine, would i be better off just trying again in person to raise IL?

as in try to improve on my first impression.

if i dont call/text her she won't be apprehensive around me.. so if i see her in person we're on more neutral terms.

if i dont see her this weekend there then i'll prob just call next week. i know right now that her interest isn't really there, nor am i friendzoned so to speak.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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scorpio1138

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don't make ANY effort to contact her. no text, no call no nothing.

I've found that most women who have a genuine interest will definitely contact you within 4 weeks time at the latest, no matter how "busy" their life is. Most times it's within 2 weeks.

If she doesn't make contact within 5 weeks, consider it a finished situation and find another.
 

big weezy

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i meant more to re-pick her up.. as in try to raise IL next time due to my flounderings the 1st time.

right now i know i didn't make enough of an impression for her to be into me.. but i have the benefit of living in the same area so undoubtedly should bump into her this weekend again.. if not, then yes i will call to set up the date as i cant wait 2 weeks to do that.

normally u wouldnt have another opportunity to try again in person but in this case i do, so i feel i should try?
 

big weezy

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i meant more to re-pick her up.. as in try to raise IL next time due to my flounderings the 1st time.

right now i know i didn't make enough of an impression for her to be into me.. but i have the benefit of living in the same area so undoubtedly should bump into her this weekend again.. if not, then yes i will call to set up the date as i cant wait 2 weeks to do that.

normally u wouldnt have another opportunity to try again in person but in this case i do, so i feel i should try?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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