"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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better to not call and just retry in person?

big weezy

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i been thinking lately that cos my pick up isn't perfect i get into incidents where i'd only rate myself 6/10 in regards to the actual pick up attempt.. meaning that she prob is slightly interested/indifferent.

if i call i'm pretty sure she won't pick up, if i text she'll either respond uninterestedly or not respond at all.

given we live both in the same area and her local starbucks is the 1 down the road from mine, would i be better off just trying again in person to raise IL?

as in try to improve on my first impression.

if i dont call/text her she won't be apprehensive around me.. so if i see her in person we're on more neutral terms.

if i dont see her this weekend there then i'll prob just call next week. i know right now that her interest isn't really there, nor am i friendzoned so to speak.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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don't make ANY effort to contact her. no text, no call no nothing.

I've found that most women who have a genuine interest will definitely contact you within 4 weeks time at the latest, no matter how "busy" their life is. Most times it's within 2 weeks.

If she doesn't make contact within 5 weeks, consider it a finished situation and find another.
 

big weezy

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i meant more to re-pick her up.. as in try to raise IL next time due to my flounderings the 1st time.

right now i know i didn't make enough of an impression for her to be into me.. but i have the benefit of living in the same area so undoubtedly should bump into her this weekend again.. if not, then yes i will call to set up the date as i cant wait 2 weeks to do that.

normally u wouldnt have another opportunity to try again in person but in this case i do, so i feel i should try?
 

big weezy

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i meant more to re-pick her up.. as in try to raise IL next time due to my flounderings the 1st time.

right now i know i didn't make enough of an impression for her to be into me.. but i have the benefit of living in the same area so undoubtedly should bump into her this weekend again.. if not, then yes i will call to set up the date as i cant wait 2 weeks to do that.

normally u wouldnt have another opportunity to try again in person but in this case i do, so i feel i should try?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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