"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Best way to open in a text

Fly By Night

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I got her number, but she does not have mine. How should my first message look like? I was going for a funny text with a hint about where we met. My only doubt about this is that she will get creeped out because it will appear as a random number on her phone.

How would you guys make the first text seem?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I always do the " Hey ;) " line and if she was into me... she will respond positively by saying heyy.. then go from there.
 

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In2theGame said:
I always do the " Hey ;) " line and if she was into me... she will respond positively by saying heyy.. then go from there.
This one works for me as well, if she wants to talk she'll respond. Also it flips the tables as she's the one coming in cold rather than you had you begun with "Hi, what's up?"
 

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It's ok, I would rather come in strong and get rejected than come in weak, drag the conversation on, then get rejected when I decide to ask for a date.

Saving money on text messaging :)
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Zerro

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Mantis Toboggan said:
Men don't use smileys. I seriously hope you didn't text a smiley.
Indeed I did and it worked. Real Men aren't afraid to look a bit silly in front of women who are interested in them.
 

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Fly By Night said:
Son of a... I was wondering whether or not I should have and I chose to do so.
I'm just busting your balls. But for real, don't be one of those dudes always sending smileys.

Zerro said:
Indeed I did and it worked. Real Men aren't afraid to look a bit silly in front of women who are interested in them.
I make jokes and stuff. I just don't attach a ":)" at the end. Maybe I'm an old geezer at 31, but it just doesnt feel right.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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An occasional smilie at the end also helps them know when you're being sarcastic when you may instead come across as mean, since text doesn't carry your facial expression or tone of voice. I do have much better results using them than not.
 

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Text her this: "you wanna fu@k?" and add a smiley face at the end.
 

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Wink faces are acceptable.

B!tches love wink faces.

Plus, as someone said, it helps with the whole sarcastic stuff. And makes innuendo that much better.
 

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I would put a smiley face in text messages...if I actually gave a sh*t about texting.

Texting is a beast all on its own. Things get taken the wrong way. People use it too much as their primary outlet of communication, and end up awkward in real life. Texting distorts things.


Back in the day, I would love to have long text conversations with girls and do all that smiley sh*t, because I felt like the longer conversations we had, the better we would "bond". However, that is not the case.


Now, I merely use text messaging as a quick gateway to plan something with someone, or quickly catch up with someone.


And @Fly By Night, "Hey ;)" should suffice. Let us know how it works out.
 

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I usually give her a nickname when we first meet.

That way, when I text her, it's obvious who it is.

I also refer back to some kind of teasing I did too.. it acts as an anchor to remind her of how much fun we had.

"Hey *nickname* .. still *blah blah blah ?*"

Then you get to continue the frame right from where you left off.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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First text is always "Hey, it's Des! How are you?" Comedy follows the first text.

And WTF is with 'smileys' not being manly? I'm pretty sure it was a MAN who invented the goddam things back in the early 1980s as there were almost no computer savvy women back then.
 

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Desdinova said:
First text is always "Hey, it's Des! How are you?" Comedy follows the first text.

And WTF is with 'smileys' not being manly? I'm pretty sure it was a MAN who invented the goddam things back in the early 1980s as there were almost no computer savvy women back then.

Well, I mean....men invented tampons too. Doesn't make them manly.
 

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omega05 said:
B!tches love smiley faces
Yes, so if you are a b!tch, feel free to use a smiley face.

:crackup:
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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