"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Best way to notice/tell a girl's IL

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sharpshooter

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Can someone give me a link to an article about the girl's IL? I'm new here and I have no idea where to look lol.

If not then what else other than intense eye contact can determine a girls IL?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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LouieVaton Don

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The main idea here is to pay attention to the Non - Verbal Cues and behavior. What comes out of her mouth is only important when your trying to find out more about her, not when trying to gauge IL.

Example:
Say you took her out for an evening on the town, everything 'seemed' great but in reality you two just weren't compatible. Now at the end of the dat she may say, your a great guy and I had fun on our date. But she may be avoiding eye contact while she is saying it to you w/ her body leaning away. Hell she might even say would go on a 2nd date but she doesnt really mean it, in fact you won't hear from her again.
 
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Simple my man...

If she continually finds ways to keep the conversation going long after it would have normally comfortably ended, then she is interested. If they are interested, they will keep talking to you.

If they make no real effort to keep their side of a convo going, then you can pretty much guarantee there is no interest there.

There's a million other cues which others on the board here can tell you about, but if the girl doesn't want to hang around you in the first place, you won't see any of them.

Cheers
 
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